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  • Well let's see, is he an overall nice guy in general? Considerate, courteous, polite, thoughtful, well-mannered? Is he reasonably intelligent--meaning not only book smarts but also common sense and street smarts? How are his communicative/conversational skills? Do you find him reasonably attractive physically? Is he reasonably well dressed, and well groomed with reasonably good hygiene? What are his ambitions and goals, both short term and in the long run? Does he have any bad habits that you wish he didn't have? Is religion or spirituality an issue with both of you? What are your major/minor similarities and differences? How do you feel your own family would treat him if you were to end up bringing him home to meet them? And how about his family as well? Hey I say go for it! And have fun, that's the main thing
  • Thanks for your quick answer and I find him all of the above!
  • Well there you go! But incidently, have you ever discussed interacial dating/marriages in general with your parents and other family members though? Would they welcome him, or at least be accepting of him? Or would it take some time for them to warm up to the idea of you dating outside your race? Do you yourself have any family members/relatives in interacial relationships/marriages? This issue may have to be addressed if it hasn't already been. Hope all goes well
  • Doesn't really matter what I or anybody else thinks, it's up to you. Personally if I liked a black girl then I'd go for it. The only way it's different from any other relationship is that he's probably not very good at dancing :-)
  • If he is someone you would date if the world weren't full of bigots, go for it!
  • I said go for it...life is to short to be worrying about what other have to say.
  • I have taken sociology classes on race and ethnic studies for what seems like an eternity (college burnout) but a lot of the studies done show, with any racism aside, that people just naturally prefer company with similar individuals whether that be religious, race or class differences. So it really boils down to how comfortable you are with him and his family, and vica versa
  • Personally, I don't have a problem with interracial dating. However, what others (including yours truly) think is their problem. The only real issue is that you and your guy are OK with it. (Apparently he is, so it's your call now.) Base your decision on the kind of guy he is and how he treats you. Race will only be a problem if you let it be.
  • You know, this is not the first time ive encountered this same dilemma that you are haveing right now. I am caucasian, I have asked out hispanic and black women in the past and for some reason they all seem to have a racial hangup. Why I am unsure as to the basis of this, but I can make assumptions that it's probably due to childhood upbringing or programming from ones parents and peers. It can be easily suggested that this is how racial inequality is distributed throughout our society. There is no scientific data that specifies that one from one race cannot or should not intermingle with another race, but the collective on one race may forbid it, and go as so far to program racial separation or anti-integration propaganda. When I have asked other women who are from another race (ie; non-caucasian) they informed me that they thought that white people did not like hispanics or those of african or some other racial descent. This could not be farther from the truth, in most instances, there are some very separtist caucasians that feel that such race mixing weakens the bloodlines, this is also a myth. Genetic science has discovered that such race mixing actually increases the viability of the human genome. Everything the separtists, (from all sides, including black and hispanic separtists), have been preaching for thousands of years is thusly denounced to be false and inaccurate by science. Now that we have all the BS of race issues out of the way. You are clear to explore the emotional issues of sharing something special with another human being. Whether you choose to allow the Q of race to interfere with your heart and emotions, is entirely up to you.
  • Well, if he's a good man, he's worth the hassle of family or society.
  • It's been almost a year. I hope you gave the white guy a chance. He could be a wonderful friend and maybe a wonderful partner someday.
  • if you think he cool than go on a date...i am hispanic and date black guys all the time...are you attracted to this guy..white guys have NEVER been my thing
  • i say go for it. you only live once... u never know until you try...
  • I do!We are in 2007 not 1856!!!!!
  • Of course. People are people.
  • I cant see why not everyone is different in more ways than the colour of thier skin and where they were born, people need to be happy so whatever makes you happy is the best way to live
  • do i "believe" in them? well, yes...you see them every day...do you mean "agree"?
  • I don't see what is wrong with it at all. I HAVE been in one. I think love is the most important thing in a relationship, and having different races for options of finding that love surly can lead to a greater chance of meeting the person you truly desire? Be it same race or different.
  • Do you believe in inter-racial relationships? Yes - Why? I am in one.
  • I was in one for 2 years almost I am white she was Puerto Rican and I loved her more than anyone else I have ever loved in this world.
  • Absolutely. I don't see any reason race should get in the way of anything... we're all people just the same.
  • As the old song said, what we need is a great big melting pot, big enough to take the world and all it's got.
  • no..I just believe in one race..The Human Race
  • I'm all for inter-racial relationships because i know of absolutely no reason not to be..
  • I like da ben dan's answer- there is only one race- the human race. Lots of different ethnicities and cultural groups- one race.
  • What people do is done of my business. Black, white, red or orange I wish everyone happiness
  • Absolutely. They have some 'extra' potential problems to face from the intolerant ignorant - but if I found the love of my life the last thing I would be focusing on is her skin tone!
  • Yes, I would like to be in one.
  • All is fair in LOVE and war!
  • I thinks it's all fine. People are people ect ect ect...
  • I think race shouldn't matter. As long as the man treats you well, your father shouldn't care!
  • Race really isn't an issue now as it was back when your father was young. I say go for it!
  • well thats his problem and not yours ... goodonya for following your heart and don't listen to out dated backward thinking..the main thing is your happy
  • I do not care who dates who.. it is not even an issue with me. When it comes to a relationship.. I care about me and mine to be honest with you..not other people's. I know what it is like not to want to upset the parents or hurt them..Lord knows I love my parents.. but sometimes parents' beliefs are instilled in them by others ..their parents.. their grandparents.. waaaaay back in the days.. ..just a domino effect of ignorance learned. If you deny your heart's desires to please your parents who are just living what they were taught.. you will be a bitter and lonely person. I would talk to your father and let him know that you are happy and you are sorry this makes him unhappy and you hope he will always be there for you. Good luck
  • I say do what makes you happy! Forget everyone else!
  • If you are happy together then I am afraid your father just has to get over his issues. You are 30 years old and are entitled to your happiness with whomsoever you wish and love.
  • Unless you are still living at home why are you worried about dad's approval. If you love this man and have decided to make a life with him then that's all that matters. If dad can't accept that it is his problem not yours.
  • I'm Mexican American as well, so I totally understand. I personally don't find race to really be an issue w/dating. If you like/love someone I think you're completely entitled to be w/that person and share you life with them. My family on the other hand supposedly isn't racist, but they would DIE if I brought anyone home who wasn't Mexican. My current boyfriend right now is half Mexican and half Caucasian... they don't really take us seriously, but I still get teased. But I know if I brought home a black man they would die! Idk how to advise you on your family. Older people are very much stuck in their ways, Mexicans are especially stubborn. I'm sorry, I know you'll always feel torn between your father and your hubby, but I wish you the best of luck! :)
  • I think it is great, I am now dating a black guy, and he is wonderful and this is my first time dating a black guy. i dont notice his skin color at all, he is just the person i love.
  • Um as long as it makes you happy,,,,,,,, uh do it!
  • I'm white, I've never dated out of my race either but i see nothing wrong with it.
  • im a white guy, and i would date a black girl the same as if i would date a white girl. look all i am sayin is give him a chance.
  • I see nothing wrong with it. I've dated interracially once, and I would do it again. I'm black who finds white girls attractive.
  • I AM A BLACK MAN. IF THIS IS A MAN YOU CARE ABOUT, OR IF YOU ARE INTERESTED THEN GO FOR IT. IF YOUR FEELINGS FEEL THAT YOU ARE FEELING HIM, THEN SEE WHAT HE HAS TO OFFER. DON'T JUDGE HIM BY THE COLOR OF HIS SKIN. THAT IS WRONG WITH SO MANY PEOPLE TODAY. JUDGING PEOPLE BY THERE SKIN COLOR, INSTED OF THEIR INTELIGENCE, OR HOW YOU REALLY FEEL. YOU WILL GET SOME CRAZY LOOKS WHILE YOUR OUT,. YOU KNOW THAT!! GO BY WHAT YOU FEEL!!
  • I don't think race should play a part in who you decide to date if you both like each other.
  • i think yes eventually everyone will be mixed. whether ppl like it or not
  • My fiance is white and I am a black woman I love him dearly and wouldnt give him up for anything skin color doesnt matter to me :) though I must say my man has quite the beautiful skin...stretched across those hard muscles..lol sorry hes on a buisness trip I am a horn dog over here ;)
  • half breeds are HOT. in a less flippant tone... genetic diversity breeds strength. the farther from your family your mate is the statisticaly better off your children are and you can not get any farther from your family than another race. I believe attraction is instincts way of identifying who would help produce the most viable offspring. honestly from a purely darwinistic point of view mixbreeding is better. that being said it is not all about the kids so let me ask you this, is it wrong for a blond to date a brunette? or an ADHDer to date a normal? no. and anyone who sayes otherwise is an imbred redneck.
  • i think it is alright i mean if u love someone then go ahead just like gays if u love be with them no one can stop u if it is love at least some of us found it in one way or another
  • He is just a guy NOT a skin colour. If you like him there is no reason why you should not date him.
  • I think it's fine and I don't understand why everyone else doesn't think so too. If the guy's nice and you think you'd enjoy his company, don't cheat yourself out of it by worrying about what color his skin is :)
  • Am African and I strongly suggest that you go on that date. Go have fun garl !!!
  • It personally wouldn't bother me, it all depends on how you feel about it. Race should never be an issue in dating or anything else, go on your date and have fun :) =D
  • I think you should I was in somewhat the same boat. My girlfriend is black and I'm white and it is great, yeah we've have had ups and downs but I love her and you should go for it, if your happy with him and he is happy with you, give it a try.
  • Still members of the human race
  • I think the most important thing is who the person is, not their color, & also how much the two of you have in common & how well you both get along.
  • Interracial dating is just dating. The skin color of my dates has always been a problem for everyone but me and my date.
  • Do what you want. Be with who you are attracted to. but realize of course that there are close minded people, probably within both of your own private circles that will not approve. Deal with them... and you are good to go!
  • Is he the kind of guy that makes your heart beat faster? Is he caring and kind towards you? Don't look at the color of his skin but the actions he displays and how you react. Close your eyes if you have to, but if his voice gets your heart to flutter, give him the pleasure of at least one date. :)
  • There's always a first time.
  • Why not? When you get right down to it, the most important thing is--yours and his happiness, right? Given the mess our is in these days, we should all embrace "happiness"--whereever, however and/or whoever we find it!!!
  • this isnt the 50s and why do you really care what other people think about your love life. just do it.
  • You are both the same race..the human race. We all come from the same place..whether or not you are religiously or scientifically oriented, we all started from the same place. So we are all the same race. What is the problem? Skin color? Why do very white people spend tons of money and time trying to get dark skin? Why do white people curl their hair and use Botox to plump up their lips? Isn't it silly to try to look different from yourself and like the people that you are afraid to date? Makes no sense at all, does it? Happy Saturday! :)
  • I think that if you and this guy really like one another why not date one another. I dated a guy of a different race before and it didn't bother us, as long as the two of you are happy that's all that should matter.
  • I found out that race and color don't really matter at all, when I dated a girl who was BORN TOTALLY BLIND. She "saw" me as I really was, and noticed things about me that no other woman ever had. She taught me that looks, skin color and race don't really mean anything at all, when both of you are totally naked and all the lights are off.
  • Go for it! If he treats you well and you are happy together that is what matters.
  • It can work out fine. What's more important than race is personality and and trust.
  • I say go for it if you are really interested in him but if you are going to date him for the sake of saying "I dated a white guy" then don't do it. I'm a black woman and have dated white men but not for the sake of claiming it but because I was truly interested in them.
  • _ Blackwhiteconnect.com _Best free interracial dating site in the world. ppl there are just like u. hope u can support interracial relationships all the time.
  • What's the difference ? Except one is male and one is female.
  • Since I've got a LOT of experience in this department, I can tell you that it CAN work, but it has to be for all the right reasons. Make sure he's not just trying to date you because he wants to date a black girl. make sure he wants to date YOU, not just your skin color. Make sure he can deal with whatever cultural differences y'all will have. Make sure he can deal with your mom. Make sure he can deal with the public eye looking at him different than it normally would. I have good friends that are an interracial couple (married) with two kids..... It's worked out fine for them. Good luck.
  • ...well I dont see why not, my husband is white...We get along awesome. We fell in love the moment we met. The color issue isnt really a factor at all. His family is all kinds of different colors. His sister is married to an asian, his other sister to a black man, the other sister to a mexican. It all depends on what him and you are looking for. Guys are guys, girls are girls...theres always gonna be the bad guys, the good guys...and so on. Go for it, try it out. It will prolly be a change, just cuz of culture...and what notz, but its cool. Its new, Its fun.
  • This requires some level of flexibility. In general, as higher your self-esteem is, as higher chances to the success.
  • I've been with a white man for the past six years and he is one in my opinion one of considerate men I've ever been with, I've been with other whit men that are not the same, however the same goes for any other race of man. Don't count him out because he is white. A man is a man. Don't let his race make you wonder see how he treats you and then go from there. I know I as a black woman I have had comments that were racist but because he is truley who I want to be with I just feel those people are being ignorant and know nothing about why I'm with this person. A white man can be just as much of a jerk as any other race of man, so if there is an attraction go for it. You wouldn't want to be attracted to someone outside of your race and have them wonder if they should date you because you are a black woman because I'm sure you simply consider yourself a woman and might be insulted that someone would consider your race
  • This is 2009, date him.
  • if you feel that this guy wants to date you for you and not all the wrong reasons then by all means date him. But keep in mind a date is something short term not long term. Its not like your planning on marrying him or anything. Just as you would date a black guy and check him out for a while and leave him if he's not the person for you, same way you should date the white guy. And remember it is just a experience between two human beings.
  • I have absolutely no problem with it at all. Have fun on the date.
  • go for it, if the chemistry works. interracial can work in college/university town. maybe not in rural america. . both of you are probably results of mixed races.
  • He's human, you are human. If you like him, what is stoping you?
  • Give a chance, you may like him for who he is, not the color of skin.
  • the source of the most beautiful people on earth
  • Freaky! Fun haha.
  • A great thing.
  • No different than other couples. race is of no concequence to me. Thanks anonymous have a good night..
  • i think they usually make the most beautiful babies!!
  • I have no thoughts. Interracial relationships are just like any other relationship.
  • We were all made equal. The persons involved need to be strong and ready to turn the other check when people try to make them different in society. If their in love then go for it. Life's to short to worry about what others think, it's what they feel for each other that counts.
  • Nothing wrong with them at all. Lucille Ball & Desi Arnaz had one, and their's was the top-rated show on TV, in the 1950s and 60s. Black entertainer Pearl Bailey was married to Italian drummer Louie Bellson from 1952, until her death in 1990. Black actor Sidney Poitier has been married to white actress Joanna Shimkus, since 1976. +5
  • Awesome!
  • Thoughts? I don't. I've been in one, and it was cool - Just like any other relationship. ;-)
  • we are all earthlings so I don't see what difference it would make, as long as you can both communicate efficiently hehe I wanna know what my partner is saying to me
  • A good idea, go for it. +5
  • there is no "interracial" dating. There is only dating
  • love comes in all shapes sizes and colors and love has no boundaries when it comes to falling in love it just happens , me and my fiance are living proof because I have a health issue that I thought no man would want me with this ,boy was I wrong !
  • the term "interacial relationship" kind of upsets me, my girlfriend and i are "inter racial" and i hate that she thinks of it like that. she is from the south. and i grew up in los angeles, which is filled with diversity. i never really even thought about that term until she brought it up. people are people.
  • Good for everyone except caucasians. They are a dying breed. SAVE WHITEY! ;) Yea, that is my honest answer...
  • Nothing against it! Your soul mate can be in an other ethnic origin than you.. who knows..
  • Interracial relationships are no different than any other relationship. People are still people, no matter what size, shape, or color.
  • I'm Canadian and I do not know what you mean by "interracial relationships". Can you please clarify your question?
  • I'm amused at this question whenever it comes up. Generally, I don't think of interracial relationships AT ALL until the question is posed. It's not my relationship, so it's not my concern,

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