ANSWERS: 53
  • For sure, my rear end!!!
  • My rear!
  • My feelings. It was the shame more than anything.
  • my rear end... ouch! Mom could pack a wallop!
  • Not my feelings so much as my confidence
  • My Dad was a Marine. He made sure my butt hurt more than my feelings.
  • My rear end without a doubt, id been bad and thought going home to tell would result in less trouble, biy was i wrong, my mother bent me over the arm of a chair and took the leather belt to my bum, i couldnt sit down for a week and it was bruised for about a month
  • You're all lucky. My dad didn't waste time aiming for my rear end, he'd grab... well whatever really- a remote, a shoe, a pillow, and start swinging. Of course when he was really mad, he'd go to the kitchen drawer where he kept hose, paddles, wire, and other more nefarious weapons. It hurt my pride, and made me feel powerless for sure. Then when I was older, I hit him back, and he stopped. But that started me on a whirlwind of violence- I would get in fights over anything with anyone. I never really came to terms with his violence towards me (even when he died a year and a half ago), but I've certainly calmed down. I try not to take things too personally, and when I do upset I try using words before fists. I think I'm a better person, not as a result of what he did to me so much as in spite of what he did to me. Like "hey, you used violence to ruin my life, but I'm rising above that. I'm taking the high road."
  • I think I only got spanked once. I was a weird kid, just knowing they were disappointed in me when I did something bad was enough for me to stop
  • Honestly.. I dont even understand the thought of having one's feelings hurt behind getting spanked. I got spanked because I got myself in trouble and as I saw someone say already, the fact that I disappointed my folks plus gettin my hide tanned was enough to teach me the lessons I needed to learn. Im for spanking.... but not beating. tanning a kids butt for being bad is a lot different from taking one's fists and pounding on a child.
  • What hurt most is that I'm 35 and those spankings are still hurting me today and will for the rest of my life.
  • My pride.
  • my rear. my feelings wern't hurt - being cheeky in a temper tantrum usually meant that i was angry more than upset. and i always knew that my parents would forgive me for whatever i'd done, if they'd said to me "i'm not angry - just dissapointed" THEN my feelings would have been hurt. fortunetly - they have only ever said this to me once when they found out i was smoking. it was enough to make me stop lol.
  • well which ever part was hit hurt the most not always my rear end at 1st then as the years dragged on and you was getting whalloped even when i was a good girl or because i didnt understand something my feelings was hurt more i felt unloved and stupid and bad all the time and it has affected the way i am towards other people
  • my rear! it would be quickly forgotten about so would never hurt my feelings.
  • My rear, other than the pain I never really learned anything from spankings.
  • Fortunately, I was lucky enough to have parents who didn't spank me. So neither.
  • Oh well, definitely my behind. Sometimes, my back. My parents used switches. Mom was extra zealous. I'd sometimes have welts.
  • rear. when ur a kid u love ur parents no matter what. i knew i did something wrong so i would even apologize. :-O
  • Feelings. I had great respect for my mother (and still do today). It would bother me if I failed her. On a good note I was a good kid and I only remember screwing up a few times which , by the way, I still feel kind of bad about.
  • neither. yeah the pain on the butt hurt at the time but geez i had it coming. My feelings weren't really hurt, maybe my pride more than anything. The fact that i couldn't get what i wanted and when i pushed the boundaries too far i had to pay the consquences...
  • My rear end. My feelings were hurt whenever my mom yelled at me.
  • From my mother it was definitely my rear end but the one time my grandmother gave me one it was both! My mother would just spank me on the spot and then ground me to a chair immediately afterwords with little fan fare. Plus she spanked me more than once so it became routine from her. My grandmother however only gave me one in my entire life! I remember how she gave me a good long hard talking to BEFORE she even began to spank me and that in itself brought me to tears because she broke my spirit and pride which made me feel guilty! The spanking wasn't fun either!!!
  • It was close to a tie,50 50.
  • I think it was my feelings more than my rear end.
  • No, I don't believe that a spanking is abuse. I think there is a BIG difference between spanking a child when they are bad, and beating/child abuse. Yes, I got some spankings as a kid, but I had been bad. I was never beaten or abused.
  • some times kids dont understand the verbal warnings so in times like that spanking is a good way to stop this incapability to understand. But there is a big difference between beating and spanking beating will leave heavy damages on kids psychology. So spanking is not an abuse unless it is overused
  • i don't think that spanking is child abuse. like the other answers stated, there is a difference between popping your kid on the bottom and beating the crap out of them. if the child just won't listen and you've tried every other avenue first, sometimes spanking is just unavoidable. i do three warnings and two timeouts and if they are still not listening, then i will spank. i was spanked as a child, as well. and no, i don't harbor some strange deep seated hatred for my parents because of it.
  • no not just a spanking. Oh yea i got my a$$ wore out as a child
  • I was never hit by a parent as a child and as I raised my nephew I never hit him either. I don't think of it as abusive, just not needed.
  • If the child is still ALIVE, and doesn't need surgery afterwards--it's NOT abuse!!! And yes, I WAS spanked, beat, whooped as a child and look here--I'm STILL here, and a law-abiding citizen!!! Go figure.
  • I would have to vote for spanking within reasonable limits like no bruising or breaking skin. I was not spanked as a child. I was given frequent lectures by both parents that lasted usually 30 minutes or longer and all the time I would have gladly taken a quick butt beating with a ping-pong paddle just to be done with it.
  • I was "spanked" with a piece of 2x4. Yes that's abuse.
  • Yes. Any sort of physical aggression directed at someone is assault and therefore abuse. Teaching a child starts at a very young age----nip problems at the bud before they get out of hand----and this involves time-outs, taking away privileges, consequences, etc., and letting the child know you are the authority, not your buddy-buddy. You need to instill a little fear in your child early on so he/she will respect you, but not in a physical, abusive way. The friendship between the two of you can grow naturally as the relationship matures. Yes, I was spanked as a child, and it did not do me one good. It only made me feel bad about myself, and made me dislike my father. You don't want your kid hating you. You want him to respect and honor you.
  • I remember only being spanked once as a child and I hated it I have to honestly say it was one of my most horrible childhood memories. It felt painful and I had barely even done anything wrong and I was in tears I hated my mother for years even to this day I hate her for spanking me that day...I honestly feel spanking a child is torture and I'm glad it's illegal now in the uk
  • Depends. A light tap on the behind for hitting your parent? Sure. Maybe. Whatever. "spanked" with a belt for refusing to eat carrots? No.
  • I'm not sure if I would go as far as to describe it as abuse, but I don't agree with it. I think if the only way you feel you can punish your child is to resort to violence, however mild, then you have failed. I was spanked, and worse, and it never made much of a difference to me, in fact it made me more aggressive, rebellious and stubborn if anything.
  • 1) Yes, 2) The nuns regularly beat the bejeesus outta me! But never my parents, 3) ;-)
  • Spanking is not abuse. Hitting a child IS. I was physically abused as a child. I spanked my children. There is a huge difference.
  • No, I do not think it is abuse. Yes, I was abused as a child, I know what abuse is, and swatting a child on the butt with your hand is not abuse as a last resort.
  • THere is a difference between spanking to discipline and spanking to abuse. If you are MAD when you "spank" a child it is abuse. I was spanked as a child and I spanked my children. I don't believe in this nambe pamby "I'm counting to 3" crap. If a child is running to the street and there is a car coming and you say "stop" if that child knows they are going to get a spanking if they keep going they are going to stop - if they know the next words out of your mouth are going to be 1....2........3, they are going to keep on running.
  • First you have to define spanking...some refer to it as a swat on the behind, while others spank their children with a leather belt while they lay naked across the bed. What is your definition of spanking and what is the purpose? Some people think it teaches children not to do something but research shows that is not the case. It teaches children to be defiant, less tolerant and meaner...i've had many a child tell me they'd rather be "spanked" than grounded...it's over faster and they can get on with their life by learning not to get caught like that again. I've also had them say they can't wait until their parents are old and they can slap them around when they don't have the power to fight back. We are lucky when nothing bad come out of spanking...many kids turn out OK in spite of it, not because of it.
  • Definitly my rear end, I'd get the wooden hairbrush, leather belt, and wooden spoon on my bare butt. I know my dad wasn't abusing me but to this day I still try not to make my dad mad
  • I think both as i was sad to see my (adopted) Dad angry with me, when he put me across his knee i remembered when i sat on it at night for his cuddles so my feelings hurt. The pain of him spanking me hurt-A LOT!, he ALWAYS spanked bare bottom and no-one i knew was spanked bare bottom exept me. But he also rubbed my bottom with a small sheet of sandpaper, for about 30 seconds and that HURT!, i howled while he held me on his lap and rubbed. It wasn't bad at the beginning but then it started burning!, by the time he stood me up it was red and VERY sore. Then i was embarrassed because he offered cream and i said yes (ANYTHING to ease the stinging)! but having to poke my bare bottom out to my Dad as he gave it a good old rub with cream was awkward, i don't know waht was more red-my bottom or my face!. But him rubbing cream in helped slightly so i didn't want him to stop and said "more cream please Daddy" or "PLEASE Daddy give it a REALLY good rub an extra rub it's sooo sore" also him rubbing it comforted me aswell as embarrassed me!. You could always tell if i'de been naughty cause Dad was rubbing my bottom with cream or i had white cream smeared on my bottom!. But both hurt and i was embarrassed too-but obedient, it worked a treat!.
  • Mostly , my FEELINGS ...
  • Well, dad was a professional kick-boxer. - ;-)
  • my feelings, because my dad always cried as he spanked me and i would feel so bad for bringing him pain.
  • my rear end definately; my feelings got hurt more when my mom would yell at me, or send me to my room.
  • My dad intended for my rear end to hurt. If my feelings were hurt that was just a bonus as far as he was concerned.
  • My dad made sure it was my ass.
  • My feelings were hurt by my butt hurt more.
  • My feelings, I never understood why my parents wanted to hurt me. I feared them for a long time and doubted if they loved me at all. I then used violence as a means to get what I wanted from my friends. I finally realized when I was 11 what pain and suffering I was causing and begged my friends for forgiveness. I couldn't touch another human for 3 years including hugs. If you would not spank an adult for misbehaving then why would you spank an innocent child? Violence teaches children violence is how you get people to do what you want. Spanking is not the answer.

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