ANSWERS: 46
  • I believe in love. I don't think love sees skin color as criteria. My best to both of you, and a prayer for your parents to find a way to be less judgmental.
  • Sorry to hear your parents are bigots and ignorant.They are probably more concerned with what people think of them than of how you feel. I'm in an interracial relationship. We have been married over 13 years now. No problem with parents on either side.
  • its not right
  • I belive that love crosses all boundaries. I have been in an interracial marriage for 28 years, and even though there have been times we have been subject to disdain, (my father was unforgiving us until the day he died) we are still very much in love. The trials we have had to face and overcome have made our relationship very strong. My Mother came to realize what a beautiful person I had married and came to love my wife and children as much as I do.
  • Oh that's too bad, My niece lived with a black man and had a couple of children by him ,and they are beautiful grown up women today. True love does not see colours.Good luck to you both and I hope you both have a long lived relationship....When your parents see how well your getting along they will come around,The hurt for them was you did what you wanted to do and not what they wanted for you.But life goes on,if they love you they won't care who your with.....They will come around and if not it's their lost.
  • As long as your in love and are happy i'm fine with it.
  • There is no such thing as "race". What we see as superficial differences between people on this earth are nothing more than an inconsequential mirage that will ultimately have no affect on the spirit which is the true nature of human kind. It is the soul, not the body that should be regarded. Racism is a blindness, please try to be patient with your family though I know it hurts.
  • I see nothing wrong with an interracial relationship. While I was in middle school I was part of an interracial relationship, while I was living with my grandma. I will never forget the day he came to visit and she threw a fit that I was sitting on his lap. Now there are two mixed children in the family. My grandmother doesn't even want her picture taken with them. She is nice to the children but does not want to be seen with them. There are so many mixed children today that I believe it will not be as much of an issue in the future.
  • I had this convo with my mom today...I was talking about guys at college and she said to marry a nice "white guy". I stoped right there and said color has nothing to do with who im going to marry. Im going to marry whoever makes me happy and I love regardless of race. I also told her if my parents ever made me pick between the person I love and them it wasnt going to turn out nice so i sugested she supports me with whoever i marry. She said "I suppose your right, and maybe thats how it should be"(the picking who you love part)
  • Although it has gotten better over the years but, you still have a rough road ahead. Now if you married the man and you love him, then frankly it is no ones business not even your families.
  • I have dated a black woman,and some Asian women.I don't notice those differences and my parents are fine with whomever I date.I am more attracted to women outside my so called race than within my so called race.
  • I don't have a problem with it.That's too bad about your parents.Maybe they'll change in time.Tell him to kill 'em with kindness.
  • Your credit prolly sucks now...give it time and you'll find yourself on the curb. Tell me 5 yrs from now if you beat the odds. Good luck!
  • I don't have a problem with them. In fact, I am in one right now.
  • I'm sorry to hear your parents' reaction. I think there is just one race, the human race, and people are best off having relationships with those they love.
  • every relationship is interracial...there is only one race..the human race...my opinion...
  • love is blind ... so colour has no meaning, and as far as your parents go 'stiff'!!!
  • Lwagner, I'm never quite sure what my folks make of me now that I'm living with a black man. I don't think it ever even occurred to anyone that I'd do something like that. If they did have a problem with it, they know better than to say anything about it, so I just don't know what their attitude is. So I feel for you. It's like we haven't fulfilled our familial duty by marrying a nice white doctor or something. But the fact is, he's my family now. It's up to them how much they want me in theirs, knowing that I come with a partner now. I'll live with it either way. Sometimes it's easy and sometimes it's not. Even the neighbors are a little weird about it, and we live in one of the most liberal communities in the country. We put up with the bullcrap from the people around us because it's worth it. But I limit my contact with people who are weird about interracial relationships, and that's from both sides - I'm okay with them but I don't have time to "educate" them or placate theme. I'm just living my life, in the end, and no time for people who can't look at us as LizVelrene/HandsomeAnonymous rather than OMG!mixed. I hope you've got a supportive community for yourself, and congratulations on your marriage. :)
  • If it works for you, sure, why not. I personally haven't found myself attracted to any black women. If it makes you happy, go for it, and screw what anyone else thinks!
  • I think all relationships are great when two people are in love and happy. Your parents should be ashamed of themselves.
  • Love is boundless.
  • Of course I believe in interracial relationships. Love has no color. If you want to see more interracial relationships you can go to Los Angeles, California. I'm a black guy and I would interracially marry. So yes, I'm all for it.
  • Stand on a chair! lol It has never bothered me. My brother's wife is black, my nephew is just beautiful. Maybe someday, if there are enough interracial babies born, we will be grey, and this wont be an issue for anyone?!? Hopefully your parents will realize that color is skin deep, and respect, integrity and love are bone deep. Good luck!
  • I'm a white man with an Asian woman. Her parents wish she would marry an Asian man, and live at home with them while giving them 70% of their income. She doesn't want that. It's part of their heritage to do that. We've made our own decision, and if they respect it, great. If they don't- Sorry.
  • I believe in ANY relationship that works. It's hard for people to let go of long held beliefs. Doing so would force them to question aspects of themselves they'd probably rather not face. Continue to love your parents. Try to understand their position. Pray they'll come around in due time.
  • We all do choose who we fall in love with and marry. When you met him, you knew you are white, his is black, and what your parents think. You chose to pursue the relationship. While many have no problem with it, so do, I don't. However, we all have to live with the choices we've made.
  • To this day, my neighbor's ex-daughter-in-law insists they don't like her because she is of a different race. She ran around on her husband (their son), drank to excess, and got caught shoplifting. About four months into the marriage, she had an abortion without his knowledge (she said she didn't want children and that was her reasoning). They are now divorced and her ex-husband is dating another woman, also of a different race. This woman was married before as well, but since her divorce, she has put herself through college, does volunteer work at women's shelters, and worked her way up from clerk to Office Manager where she works. A person's character is determined by their actions, not their color. If your parents see that your husband is a good decent person, it may make a difference in their attitude.
  • Yes I do. Very much so. Sorry about your parents but that's their problem. I'm glad you haven't let it be yours.
  • Interracial relationships are fine. We have to learn to live with each other without letting race be an obstacle. USA Today on interracial relationships: http://www.usatoday.com/news/nation/2006-02-07-colorblind_x.htm - - - - - -[Here is an excerpt from the website for you.] - - - - - - New generation doesn't blink at interracial relationships By Sharon Jayson, USA TODAY Ryan Knapick and Josh Baker have been best friends since fifth grade. Colette Gregory entered the picture in high school. She and Josh are dating now. Knapick is white, Gregory is black and Baker is half-Hispanic. To them, race doesn't matter.
  • My mother looked down on my choice of partner because she didn't like his job and the fact that he didn't make a lot of money. I thought that was sad and petty. My first boyfriend was dark skinned Puerto Rican and my mother disliked him for his skin color. My second boyfriend was Italian and he was an alcoholic with many problems and my third boyfriend who became my husband is the product of a light skinned Puerto Rican mother and mixed heritage European father. I believe that when you love someone and they love you back and treat you well, that is what parents should be concerned with.
  • yes i do (so far iv only dated interratially, just happened dat way).. i am also scared,like you, what my parents would do or say if i had a serious relationship out side my own ethnicity.. which is why ive neva brought a bf home yet (@_@) sigh. people like to think its 2008 so "everything goes" now & old stereotypes jus disapear but its not like that.. there is a price for everything
  • Yes, I have friends and family members who are married to black men.
  • I believe that any relationship that makes two people happy, is what love is all about, be they black , white, yellow, green, gay, straight or alien.
  • Yes, I believe in interracial relationships. I believe they can work out as well as same-race relationships. Don't let racism discourage your interracial marriage. Keep your head up. I'm taking interest in that mixing interracially myself, and I've been discouraged, mostly from the trolls on the net.
  • Yes, I believe in interracial relationships. They can work out. Ignorance and stupidity shouldn't discourage people from marrying interracially.
  • Yes I very much beilieve in interracial relationships.I"m white and deeply in love with a black man who makes me feel like I'm on top of the world...I plan on marrying him someday and my parents(besides my mom)couldn't be more against it. But I love him and I've never looked at him and only seen color.But you can't help who you love and I honestly wouldn't change it if it could. J.L.M
  • Ask your parents why they think there is something wrong with it.
  • God made all people, and loves them equally. I do think that other peoples predjudice can make it hard on interracial couples, but I've never read anything in the Bible that says colors can't mix, all I've read is that believers (in God) shouldn't mix with non- believers. In Bible times this meant mixing with other races and such more so than now because different races had different beliefs. This can stand true in some places now, but mostly it's untamed prejudice that people really have to consider when dating other races.
  • yes i do,i lost intrest in white woman a long time ago,( im white) i want only latinos or black girls, they tend to know how to treat thier man better
  • YEs,we are are a truly mixing melting pot today,everybody is mixed in some form of another,we all have black blood in us all as we all originated from Africa 2.5 million years ago. Dont let anyone denegrate how you feel towards someone you love,let go of those feelings from them and trust in what you believe in
  • I am white and have been with a black man for almost a year. First black man i've ever been with although i've always been attracted to non-white men only 2 of 5 guys ive been with have been white. The first time my mother met my boyfriend she made the situation very uncomfortable for me and him, he now avoids going to my mothers house and I dont blame him i would too! the best thing to do is make you parents feel like asses really since they did that to you...ask them, "why cant i be with this black man whats so wrong with it?" i told my mother too bad i don't go for white guys so she better just get over it!
  • Yes i do believe in it. I been with a mixed guy for 4 years now and ever since i first started dating him my parents don't trust me or don't allow me to see him. I am 19 years old and can't be with the guy who makes me happy. We love each other to death and have been through absolutely everything possible. My parents told me if I married a black man or if I was still with the guy im with now then they will dis own me. It's very upsetting because I am happy and they won't give the guy a chance because of what other people will think. I know what it's like and it is the hardest thing to do, but when your in love nothing can stop you. Good luck with everything. Live your life and just be happy.
  • if u love ur man careless about ur parents for race is not important.what is important here if u are happy with ur man then cool,getting married to someone of ur race is no prerequisite for a successful marriage and happiness.
  • If I were you, I would sever ALL TIES with your parents, completely and forever. You don't NEED folks like that, in your life. Love is UNCONDITIONAL, if it is really LOVE.
  • yes, i dont see anything wrong with it
  • Well at least your parents can still see you. Mine are dead.

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