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  • My grandmother. It was difficult as we were very close, and I still miss her terribly.
  • Yes ! My Father and both Grandfathers. You survive it,and life goes on, but you never really get over it.
  • My grandmother. I was only 3 so I don't remember how I dealt with it as a child. But as an adult I have always felt sad that I didn't have the chance to get to know my grandma.
  • My grandmother died of cancer in the late 80's. The doctors tried everything on her (they used her as a guinea pig), but nothing helped. She died slowly and miserably. I wasn't a Christian at the time and it was really hard for me to deal with. I wish I had known back then that I could lift that burden up to God and that he would take it gladly. Instead, I tried to self-medicate my way back to normality. (That approach doesn't work BTW.) Today, I know that God had a plan for my grandmother, and for the rest of us. I know that God used her life and death for good. Prayer helps the pain of mourning. Scripture says ask and you will receive. Lift it up to God and he will heal your heart.
  • I had many people in my family die from this disease. I dealt with this by tending to their needs as they arose and I had to take over all their responsibilities when they were in the late stages of their declining health. In a way death came as a blessing. Losing someone who got killed in a car accident is much more difficult to cope with than losing someone to cancer. With cancer you have time to prepare for the period of mourning. I deal with it by accepting the reality of death. I'm an older person and over half my immediate family has passed on and it's easier for me to accept death because I have seen so much of it.
  • My partner's mother, father and half-sister died from different forms of cancer, all within five years. Regardless of the illness, the news of impending death can shake a person. The way we handle it has much to do with how we view life and the process of death. First, keep in mind the prognosis may or may not turn out to be true. It's not a hard, fast date. My grandfather was given two years and, with treatment, lived a healthy ten year until a heart attack took him. While this is a sad and shocking time, it's also a precious, precious gift. You boyfriend is being urged by time to get to know his father well, to say the things we all put off and to make the process as easy a transition as possible for his father and family. To more specifically answer your question, you deal with death by waking up each day and breathing, by crying a lot, by laughing at good memories a lot and by keeping the spirit of your loved one alive by being the best person you can be in the world. Good luck to you all.
  • My grandmother died from lung cancer Easter 2 years ago. I slowly watched her die fighting for breath. +6
  • My best friends mother, also my cousin, I mourn for a few days, then force my self back into life so I don't become depressed.
  • I lost 2 uncles last year. Bone marrow cancer. You shouldn't remember how they were when they died. You have to remember the good times. Keep those memories alive.
  • I lost my uncle june 27th of this past year, he and I were very close and it has been very hard to deal with , I think of all the memories I have of him and that makes me smile. A few months after he passed my grandfather was dignosed with cancer also, hard to see him going through all my uncle went through such a short time ago. RIP Uncle Ozzie
  • My Father was killed of primary liver cancer that had metastasized through his thyroid system. The hard part for me was seeing my Mother going through it. Also, seeing a man that could toss around a 500 pound roll of carpet waste away into a skeleton that could not even stand up. He was a tough son of a bitch up to the end. The best way I've dealt with it is to live my life to it's fullest and live my life in a way that would make him proud to call me his son.
  • my dad past away 12 years ago because of cancer. It was hard for me and my family, especially my mom who didnt come out of her depression until recently. How did i deal with it? Well after several months has pasted, i came to realize that moping and feeling sorry for myself wont do any good nor will it bring my dad back. Instead, i just started thinking positive thoughts and moving forward with my life. Support from family and friends do help but its was ultimately up to me whether to change or not
  • my mum, about a year ago. i cried, and cried, and cried. but at least she was sleeping at the time. my dad watched her pass away, and he said she was so peaceful. that made me feel slightly better :(
  • Yes, my auntie on Saturday... we spent the day in her room - she had a lot of visitors, which was really lovely - they all came to give their respects and sat and talked about her, and we had quite a happy time! Laughter and jokes filled the room, as well as tears, because she was a happy and witty person, and she always wanted to see people smiling - she would have hated us sitting around being all morbid... Then gradually,we all left from about 6.30 in the evening we started leaving - there was no point staying any longer and everyone was very tired - and she died about 3 hours later. RIP Shirley.. with love :)
  • lost virtually every older member of my family to cancer. the doctors manage the situation (pain control, overall health, psycology)it a lot better than they used to-so it's easier on the survivors. as an earlier answerer wrote-it can be a time of joy (or at least acceptancce) as well as a time of sadness.
  • My good friend Died of T-cell Lymphoma(spelling?). He was only 20. He was away on a study abroad program in copenhagen. He got sick and was tranfered to an army base in Germany. From there he came back to the USA to get a bone marrow transplant from his brother but died before the surgery could be done. He Went from 100% healthy to dead in less than 2 months. Everyone was upset. I deal with death well. I except that we have only two real truths in life. One is we are born and two is that we are going to die. Some just earlier than others. I was mostly upset because since they could diagnos it in copenhagen they wouldn't let him go through customs to the army base in germany because they didn't want a deadly disease to get out. They thing the week he spent waiting to get transfered to germany could have saved his life. Eiether way i guess it was his time.
  • Yeah, both grandparents on my mom's side died of cancer. Luckily, I'm emotionally numb, so it's all good.
  • Yes. I just simply had to deal with it. My family is high risk on both sides for different types of cancer. My Grandparents both died of cancer at the ripe age of their early 50's.
  • I've lost both my grandmothers to cancer. One in high school, and I remember being sad, but feeling guilty because I wasn't more affected by it. I still miss her sometimes, but I more feel bad because I know my mom misses her a lot. My dad's mom just died last summer. I was VERY close to her, and still get sad when I think about it (like now). I cried a lot when it was happening, and a lot right after. I try to mention her whenever I think about her, and then try to change my sad thoughts into happy ones about good times I had with her. I don't expect my sadness of losing her to ever go away - but I do think that eventually I'll be able to recall happy memories without feeling like crying. Losing a loved one is hard - regardless of how they died. Just make sure that you don't suppress your feelings - if you're sad, then be sad. If you're angry, then be angry. Let yourself feel whatever comes up - but don't let them interfere with your ability to live your life.
  • I have lost several relatives to cancer, luckily I was pretty young and wasnt really too traumatised by it. But 4 years ago I had skin cancer myself and the experience of that really puts a new spin on your outlook on life, all better now though touch wood!!
  • It is the worst thing in the world. I hope you never have to go through this.
  • Yes, I lost my brother in law to lung cancer. When we heard the diagnosis, I walked over to the closest trash can, threw away a pack of cigarettes and lighter, and never smoked again. I couldn't imagine putting my family through what we were experiencing over again. Getting through the grieving process with any loss is probably the most difficult thing any of us have to cope with. I lost my beloved husband (not to cancer) 8 years ago. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him, and miss him.
  • My best friends grandma died yesterday to lung caner, brain cancer and bone cancer. Its been really hard on her, and her family. And its also been hard on me, because i feel really bad for her and i am trying so hard to support her..
  • My aunt and grandmother on my Dad's side both died of breast cancer...Jim's brother-in-law had his voice box removed due to throat cancer but seems to be doing just fine (knock on wood). I'm not aware of anyone else offhand. :)
  • yes, my oldest brother. how about you?
  • Yes I have.
  • Yes. Both my Grandparents.
  • I almost lost my mother to breast cancer...thank God I didn't. I feel for everyone who has lost loved ones to this horrid disease
  • Yes, both of my parents, an uncle and some friends.
  • I lost my youngest brother (50yrs. old) to cancer (though they never found out where it ORIGINATED in his body)! And my older sister to advanced ovarian cancer. She IGNORED all the warning signs! The worst part. . . . she was my FAVORITE sister!
  • my uncle died of cancer and I dealt with it by being there for him throughout his illness so we both prepared for it. I now work for a local cancer charity. Help out and you will feel better. xx

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