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  • I have a decent sister-in-law. She's OK. I have two brothers-in-law, both named John, and both, for different reasons, I just can't stand.
  • I have 3 sisters-in-law. One I have only met once and don't really know. One, who is "ok". Those two are married to my husband's brothers. The one married to my brother is...well, I'm reserving my opinion of her until I get to know her better.
  • I am quite lucky. I have a good sister in law..of course she lives in GA so that might help!!! LOL...just kidding she's very sweet!!!
  • My husband's sister Robynne and I have no relationship at all. This is fine with me. Robynne has problems with her life and I have no idea when she will grow up or if she will ever grow up. She is 46 years old and living in Alaska last I heard. I have zero interaction with her.
  • One is great -- I really love her. Another "sister-in-law" is my brother's long-time, live in, and I really like her a lot. The third one (which I don't have anymore) was married to my other brother. She didn't have to work -- he supported her and her four children -- he worked a job that took him away for 30 days then he was home for 30 days. Except, she decided to keep another guy there during the 30 days he was gone!
  • both of mine are angels. I love them.
  • There's only one out of the group that should be sent to the moon.Not too bad,I guess.
  • My sisters-in-law are all fabulous! I love my hubby's sisters, and I love my brother's wife. It's difficult to think of my brother's wife as my in-law. My brother is about 14 years older than me, and he was dating her when they were in high school, so she was always there...more just like family than in-law.
  • I think my sister-in-law is pretty cool. I don't know if she thinks I am or not, but whatever. :)
  • Well it's not that I hate my sister-in-law, I just hate that my sister-in-law is REALLY nosy, she has no respect for my husband and myself. She also told me that I had no right to divorce my husband even if we weren't happy just because we have a child together.
  • I don't have one at all...no fair!
  • My future sister in law is a very spoiled, co-dependent, snobby, judgmental, hypocritical, rude, thoughtless, person. Needless to say I don't care for her. She has been such a problem and interferance in my future husband and my relationship that I have gone into therapy, am now on meds, and thinking about postponing our engagement another year. Yeah. Did I fail to mention that she is three years younger than me/five years younger than her brother but had to get married last year and we had to wait so she could have "her time" for "her day"?! Not to mention the other shit about how I wasn't invited to the wedding because having me there would ruin the day. I don't do anything! I am just quiet and uncomfortable around them because they (the sister and her mother) have told my boyfriend that they, "Don't understand how he could date me since I am not a Christian (he's a Taoist they are Southern Babtists), I smoke and drink (on very rare occasions), and I curse (I said shit once in front of them). I'm trying desperately to get excited about getting engaged and marrying him (a wonderful man whom I love and who loves me and wants to start a life with and grow together mentally and spiritually together) but I just can't get over how shitty they treated me the first two years. They have just recently flipped into nice, friendly doting people (since he told them that if I wasn't invited and treated at the wedding he wouldn't be there because he and I only go where the other is welcome because we are a couple). It freaks me out how nice they are after how passive-aggressively they treated me shittily before. I just don't know. I'm in therapy but I don't know if I'll ever get over being judged so harshly for stupid things. Oh, and for the record their family never talks about anything important unless they can make it into a joke. So, the whole wedding situation is not allowed to be talked about and they think the whole thing is water under the bridge and I just cant forgive them. I just can't. I'm trying but I'm still just really hurt and mad and it all started with his bitch little sister treating me like shit and snubbing me. So weird. Blah. Why couldn't I have fallen in love with a single child orphan?! Oh, but his Dad really likes me and supports us being together and tried in vein to help us during the whole hell phase. Whatever. I need to get over this.
  • My sister in law passed away almost 2 years ago from breast cancer at the age of 43. She was one of the finest people I ever knew. She was your friend after only knowing her for a few minutes. She had a gentle heart. I miss her so much.
  • I once had 10 sister in-laws .. from my first wifes family ...all thought the sunshine came out my arse until the divorce ... then all my arse was good for was kicking :)
  • My sister-in-law is worthless. She actually takes happiness away from our family. My brother was always a big nerd all through HS. Then at a party at our house growing up he meets this Queen of all B!^&#@s! She lacks everything you would expect a sister-in-law to have when marrying into another family. Class, charm, respect or even common courtesy. She projects her own insecurities about her cultural differences (she's from central America)onto my family by claiming we are racists towards her. They have been married since 1994, and since that time my brother hardly ever visits my parents. When there is a holiday or a kids birthday my brother jokes about embarrassing stories about me in front of my wife, my kids, his friends who I mostly don't even know, and the rest of our dysfunctional family. My sister-in-law is basically the cause of a lot of tension and sadness directed at my mother. All the while my brother pretends that there is nothing is wrong, or that everyone is overreacting to the things she says. She is completely materialistic, pretentious, and fake. She has created such a huge rift in this family and blames us for the cause. It seems like I cannot have a conversation with my brother (with her around) without embarrassing cheap shots at me and my past. People in general don't act that way. She revels in put down and cheap shots. It is truly a sad situation that my brother cannot teach his wife any better, or expects us to tolerate her. What a sad legacy she will leave when the tornado drops the house on her.
  • I got 3. One good, two suck.
  • I have one thats great and one I can't stand :-)
  • I have a good one. She is lovely and fun to be around.
  • On the other hand, my wife's sister is a complete saint. I love everything about her. She's sweet, kind, loves her family, and is one of the most considerate people I know. In my opinion, I married into the best family I could hope for. My wife and her family are the salt-of the earth kind of people. They care for one another, they listen to and respect one another. I hope that when I am older, and my kids start to marry, that they will not only look at their spouse, but their spouses family. I pray that they are as lucky as me.
  • i happen to have a good one. My brother started dating her when i was only 12 so she's been around for a long time. She's family, that's for sure
  • Well, I have three sisters in law and they're all different. The first is a nice person, but has a medical condition which has made her mature slowly and she's done a fairly good job dealing with the other (mostly mental) complications since I've known her. Apparently as a child she was severely OCD and did not handle it so well as she has lately. The second is the identical twin to the first. She has the same medical condition, but while I'm told she was better as a child, she is now a VERY selfish person and her behavior towards my daughter has been a problem since she was born. (I mean, who takes the last/best donut when the kid JUST asked for it and says 'sorry, there aren't any left' as she pops it into her mouth, and then scolds the child for crying?) The third has had an up-and-down struggle with addiction to pain medications following a major injury and a couple accidents. When she's doing well, we get along fine. When she's not, she just has a hard time in various predictable ways considering her addictions. What I DO have though, is wonderful parents-in-law. I couldn't ask for better ones. I suppose it goes to show that even the best parents have flaws when it comes to parents, and even the best of parenting doesn't necessarily produce the best of children.
  • My sister in law is a head case . So self absorbed in her self . Crows all the time about herself . Its like listening to a record playing all the time except its all about her . She must be very insecure for someone like herself to talk about herself all the time . She never ask about I or her brother when we visit . She leeches money from us . My husband is always helping her and when I do voice my opinion its response is always ignored . When I do make a comment on how to help a situation she takes the advice then takes the credit . Im putting my foot down. Im tired of this crap! I never invited her in my life so what the hell . Just because I married the brother , she has no right of invading my boundries . Any other comments on how to deal with this nasty sister in law would be appreciated.
  • I have one really good one. She and I are pretty close friends, and we probably would be even if I hadn't married her brother. I also have a few that are less pleasant, but the good news is that the nice one is the only one who lives in the same town as I do. The others I only see a couple of times a year, so it's tolerable.
  • I have two sister-in-laws who i have tried so hard to get on with but who are both so caught up in each other that they ignore me. They always laugh and make private jokes in front of me making me feel v uncomfortable. They talk about how they would hate not to have each other (when they know I don't have a sister). Now they have asked my fiance if they and their friends can stay at my appartment in spain for 2 weeks in the summer for girly holiday! No mention of me being invited! They also give me dirty looks at family events! They stopped me attending their parents 30th wedding anniversary party as it was 'family only'. Their parents apologised but said nothing to them! People tell me they are just jealous and I shouldn't let it bother me but it does! What can I do? I love my fiance soooo much and would never wana lose him!
  • Mine is the best. She is an awesome sister-in-law.
  • Bad. Very bad. Before my husband and I married, I was looking forward to a relationship with her since we are the same age. She made it clear right at the beginning that it was never going to happen. She's a contemptuous woman and managed to destroy her other brother's marriage. I have never met anyone like her in my life. Toxic does not come near to describing her personality.
  • I have three of them. 2 are absolutely the nicest people, wouldn't mind for them to be my own flesh and blood. The other one, doesn't have the greatest personality but at times can be nice and is an asset to the family in many ways.
  • I have 2, 1 lives out of state and she is wonderful I love her and wish she was close by this is my husbands sister. The other one just married my husbands brother and she is awfull. She is very rude. My husband and I lived together a few years prior to marriage, and when I came into the picture she was just living with his brother, when I met her the first time she was very stand off, not very warm and hospitable and eally would not speak to me and would always come across as rude to me. Then they became engaged and are now married she and now his brother are very rude including his mom. We got married not long after they did and now it has really divided the family my husbands two brothers and the new sister in law along with his mother treat me badly. However my husbands sister that lives out of state is wonderful and so is my father inlaw and his wife and they live out of state also. I am now not speaking to them when we are at gatherings and have decided to stay completly away during other gatherings and holidays. I can no longer allow passive agressive behavior or let them treat me badly ever again. I have decided my husband can decided what he wants to do, I feel bad I hate it because we both know how important family is, but apparently they don't care. What sickens me more then anything is that my husbands mom is suppose to be such a christian and they are all catholic. How can people do such hurtfull things.
  • Great one!!!!
  • My sister in law is HORRIBLE! She goes to each family member and gets them to talk about something their upset about and if it has something to do with another family member, she goes and tells them what you said. She told a secret that I told her to my parents. The very people I asked her not to tell.... And...when she hooked up with my brother she neglected to tell him for a year that she had an STD!!! And....she was performing "massages" at ILLEGAL poker games.....She's never had a regular full time job on her own because she weasled her way into our family business and she moved into oe of my parents houses with my brother without asking the owners of the house. What the heck do we do? My brother is so niave and kind....he just can't see what type of girl she is...I am so worried about him! Help! Advice?
  • I have 2 great sister-in-laws. And unfotunately I do have another one that is a hypocritical bitch. Jill (aka bitch) married my brother 4 years ago. They had met on an online dating service and got married within 3 weeks. My brother has always had financial problems and boy so does she. Jill had over half a million in debts that she did not tell my brother about and still keeps racking up the dollar amount as we speak. They filed for bankruptcy and depend on my mother to help support them (BYE THE WAY HE'S 50). When my Grandmother passed away last November she sent me a nasty email on the day of my Grandma's funeral telling me what a lousy person I am and how she and my brother are going to take my mother with them to Colorado when he transfers there in a few years and take care of her(or drain what is left of her savings)...just all types of personal slander. It was very shallow and uncalled for. This is the first time I have ever told anyone about what happened last November. Sure does feel good to vent.
  • Hi - up until a year ago I thought that I had a pretty good sister in law. Now everything is different -- after my husband & I gave in to her pleas for a place to rent we bought a house for her to rent from us and completely remodeled it inside and out!! She has out of the last 12 months only paid rent on time twice and hasn't paid for the past two months!! She has stupidly gotten herself way-way into debt (from things like cell phones for her adult sons, cats, dogs, and other pets, crafting items, schwans food, double the student loans than her two year tech school tuition cost, ect, ect, ect) and then she has the nerve to cry because everyone is hounding on her!!! My husband and I have not had a dissagreement in years but these last two months there has been nothing but arguments and all over a sister in law that won't work full time because she doesn't like other coworkers, her excessive spending habits and complete inability to even clean up after her multiple cats!! He won't tell her to move out!! I would have no problem doing it -- this is a business/financial situation and if it was anyone else not paying rent he would have me evict them like yesterday!!!!!! Just needed to get this off my chest and somewhere where someone may actually read it -- so I feel like I have been heard. Thanks!!!
  • Bad definitly. She is mean to her kids. She spends all her money on clothes and stuff for herself while her kids wear old ratty clothes from good will that dont fit. It breaks my heart. She also has a thirteen year old daughter who she still has never told about getting her first period. When the poor kid finally gets it its gonna be like that scene from Carry.
  • I have one that backstabs and one who has never had a partner so thinks its ok to involve herself much to deeply in our relationship.she doesn`t know the meaning of the word "sensitivity".I believe they hate me because their brother moved away to live with me.It didn`t matter that he wanted to move,I still get the blame.
  • I have three, one married to my brother is the best I could ever ask for, in fact I'm not sure how she puts up with my brother! The other two are my husband's sisters and one is ok, we rarely see her and she has her own life that she is busy and happy with for the most part. She doesn't interfere although she is quite harsh and not a great quest in my house in that she doesn't say thank you or is never overly friendly or positive but she doesn't interfere. Her younger sister, however is very insecure and jelous and has many issues with everyone and everything. She constantly going between two different parties, for example will criticise her mother to me and then go back to her mom with critcisms about me and so on. She constantly criticizes her own sister, especially parenting skills. She constantly starts arguements, is highly over sensitive and jealous and insecure. If we have a family function and invite her, she shows up pouting and sits in a corner by herself. If you go out of her way to include her, offer her a drink she will say no thank you and then two minutes later go and ask for a drink and say no one offered her one. The funniest part of it, is that this is how her own mother behaves (martyr syndrome) and she knows this and it drives her crazy. She has even asked me to tell her if/when she acts like her mother, to which I have never and will never respond! It feels like a no win situation, so after many years of agonizing and trying to be upbeat and positive, I merely keep interactions to a bare minimum and avoid her at family functions. She has said hurtful things about me, this I know because her own kids have said certain things,like for example that I don't work as hard as her brother and maybe I should get a job so her brother (their uncle) doesn't feel like he is doing all the work. At the time, I was running my own business, teaching part time at college, and had 3 other contract jobs on the side that I never told her about because I don't tell her anything anymore. I make more than her darling brother and more than both her and her husband combined (but again, I don't ever mention this or advertise anything) and she on the other hand is obsessed with money and talks about her own personal finances not only in front of us but in front of others which is very in appropriate and hurtful. She goes on about how much money they have in front of her own cousin who is a struggling single mom, this cousin has said I heard you the first time and she will just go on and on. Of course this relates to her own insecurities but it's very hurtful and the irony of it all is she gets hurt by anything anyone says or does. If we visit her city and call her house and she's not home and we miss her, she's upset. If she calls our house and we aren't home she accuses us of not answering her phone calls and avoiding her (which has lead me to avoid her even more and now I do avoid her phone calls!). If she is busy and misses a family funciton or is late (which is often) she always has a big long drawn out excuse. But if she comes to our city to visit her mom and we are busy working and don't show up until later she's upset. We all went to a wedding this past summer where some camped, hotel etc. Her and her husband both have all summer off. My husband and I are the busiest in the summer months and get no time off at all in summer. However, we travelled to this wedding which was a great comprimise on our part. Her other sister did the same. She was so upset that after this wedding we all didn't go camping with her family for the following days and we all tried to explain to her that it was difficult for us to even get to the wedding and that we all had responsibilities and that this was not intended to be a camping holiday with her but rather the importance of attending her cousin's wedding. She is still bitter and upset by this. It's all about her, she interferes and ruins everything. I am dreading this Christmas because it's a year where we are not suppose to be getting together and I will make plans on my side and she will just show up, on whatever day and time works for her and expect us to drop everything and if we are busy, have plans and don't conform to her every whim she will be personally insulted. I am so sick of her and my husband is so used to tolerating her that he doesn't say anything. He knows what she's like and his attitude is what can he do about it and to just accept her. This is what I tell my kids, and I don't bad mouth her in front of them but to him I vent and expect him to step up at times, especially when she blatently is saying things at family functions and he just sits there and half the time he blocks her out and doesn't even realize what she's done. I am becoming more resentful of this over time and avoid her, her mother and family functions in general. We have small children so while at family functions I always have a distraction (changing diaper, feeding, naps etc) We live very close to the mother's so I will take my kids home to nap, bath them and do some work at home and then go back. We are expected to stay at the grandma's house the entire time they are there, to which I never know because they a) don't plan and b) don't communicate. One time, I left for a few hours to go home and do some work. I left my kids there to play with the cousins and their dad was there to help out. Upon my return she guestioned me, what I was doing, why etc. I am getting to the point where I am very short and abrupt (a trait I find in all my in laws and greatly dislike) and am now behaving this way myself as a coping mechanism. I am constantly avoiding and trying to come up with nice ways of saying the most pointed and direct come backs. I don't like myself, what I have become and find when I am happy, positive and upbeat that it drives them crazy. I try to keep this up but it's so draining. I have been taking energy training to cope with this. One time a good family friend showed up and noticed how not like myself I was and mentioned this to me afterwards. He indicated that he understood why, he's know the family their whole life and he doesn't understand why the mother allows her daughter to behave this way. She treats her own mother badly, constantly criticizing her to her face. Her mom (my kids grandma) just takes it. She doesn't stand up for herself. She is very insecure herself and very bitter and unhappy. As a result, I cannot stand to be around her either and am so tired of trying to put a positive spin on every negative she says. She has gotten to the point where she openenly criticizes me in public. For example I hosted a family bbq in the summer for the entire family. At one point, she began quizzing me about my job. I tell her nothing about anything.....so she proceeds to say that she is under the understanding that I am in a job that I am way too underqualified for and this is why I'm having problems (I was being harassed at work, which also happened to her oldest perfect daughter). I was speechless and didn't know what to say. I have since found a website which gives great pointers on how to respond to those kind of things such as "Is it ok if I answer your question on my career later?" or "I wasn't aware that you were up to speed on my career?" or my personal favourite "Why are you asking me this?" Likely I will go with the first option as it's least obvious and I won't look as bad in front of others. I am dreading Christmas, because I have no idea what the in laws are planning (they don't plan, they just show up). They expect me to host everything. I had planned a few functions last year to which the one sister took control over and it impacted everything (my ability to cook the meal for everyone, my ability to organized the entire Christmas). She just doesn't think! Agh.....and to top it off, I'll be 8 months pregnant, can't drink and won't be tolerating anyone well not to mention her and her mother!!
  • I only have one, but she is awesome! I love her!
  • I don't even like to call her a sister-in-law. I call her my brother's wife. She is a total Bitch!! She dosn't work, dosn't take care of the kids, & all she does is drink, party w/her friends & start trouble. she acually told my brother he had to choose between me & her. I did the only thing I could do & just walk away. I would never try to make him make that choice. I love my brother dearly, but she has made every family event a disaster for the past 12 years. We can't even eat dinner together. Thanksgiving day me & my family are going to my mom's & they will come after we leave. What a stupid, lazy cow!!
  • I have two sister in laws im not very fond of them both (they are asian im white ,i think this has been part of the problem)the youngest out of the two is the biggest b**** i have ever known ,she once invited us to belgium cause she lived there for a while ,once i was there she told me i was too young to have a baby (i was 19 ,she was 20 when she had hers)she also told me my mum was too young when she had me ,i was told that my partners mum would always come first ,she picked at my clothes all the time ,i kept my mouth shut because of my partner but i left 1 day early and spent it at the airport ,that was 10 years ago ive never even had a sorry off her or anything ,if she did that now id probley slap the B****,even her own mother and father in laws have stopped speaking to her she is one nasty cow.
  • horrible my ex SIL was awesome
  • my sister in law is toxic! she is a spoiled brat who needs to grow up she is 23 and she acts like shes 12 shes always running her mouth about somebody she needs slapped seariously! I just can't wait for the girl to get a reality check one day mommy and daddy wont be there to hand her over everything she wants!
  • I had one she was my best friend, but she died. :(
  • I have one, and I don't think she is good or bad.. I think she is human..
  • i love both of my sisters in law there always there for me no matter wat it is for even the dumest shit i love them both so much their differnt from each other can bearly stand each other but i feel blessed to have them as in laws they been there for me more then my own blood n they never sugar coat anything wrong my fiance does i couldnt have better ones i love my girls
  • Yet to have one but I'm sure she'll be fantastical :)
  • I loathe my sister-in-law. I have one good one--but she's estranged from the family and is barely 18, so I hardly see her. The other is a selfish, pampered witch.
  • I have one that is mean and the other one was okay...but now I think she has some serious issues...Like being 54 and still doing drugs....because she hurts all over so much. Was a nurse at one time now she is basically a bum who picks up scrap metal to get money....it's kinda sad.
  • I married into this family 6 1/2 years ago and am now 50 years old. My husband's SIL (48 years old) is a University Professor and I feel has had it in for me from the very start even though I had never done her any wrong and was always cordial towards her. She didn't like the fact that I was not a Professional telling my now husband back then that he could have done better. I had worked in a Police office in another country before immigrating and marrying him. I don't work outside the home now and I think this bothers her. When I refused to attend family functions back in 2007 due to a well known drug dealer being present (her then 24 year old daughter's boyfriend) I was made to look like the black sheep. The latest now is the fact that I didn't watch her 2 year old granddaughter (poor kid's father is a drug dealer now in jail) for 9 days at the beginning of January while the inlaws all went on a cruise. As a result her and husband had to scramble to find a babysitter and pay for the sitter's services. She made a comment to my husband that I used "hormones" as an excuse not to do anything. Hormones don't even enter into it. I believe this woman is bi-polar as she sure exhibits the signs of it. My husband cannot understand me now not wanting to attend family functions because of this one. This is not the first time she has made condescending remarks to or about me. She just seems to feel she has this superiority when it comes to me. Tired of the cr*p and am actually looking to moving back to my home country because the husband will not come to my defense even as much as to tell her to back off.
  • my sister-in-law, i hate her. her and my little brother are the 1st for both of them (in every way that 1st can be taken). they got married about 3 days before he had to ship out to boot camp. but that is a side story. she is bipolar, now don't get me wrong some of my closest friends are bio polar. but my sister in law need to be on meds. she will just fly off the handle all the time. she has almost hit me a couple of time. She has made comments about wanting to hit me, kill me, or even stab me. One night i was doing dishes and she comes into the room and said i just want to stab you some times. i had a knife in my hands and i handed it to her and she took it by the handle and i pushed the knife into my stomach and told her to do it. she just looked at me. it is the only way to keep her from pushing me around. not only does she threaten me but also calls me names and everything. i hate her and there is nothing on this earth that will change how i feel. That is the tame stuff that she has done. She has trail in march of 2009 for assault charges her mother is pushing against her.
  • I have one yes and it depends on the day she had if she good or bad
  • one of each actually. :p
  • i have an amazing sister-in-law i love her to death:)
  • I have a bad sister-in-law. She caused an issue over a dream of hers about My brother and my wife having a relationship. What a nut
  • I have one sister-in-law on my side (brother's sister) - EVIL. Three of my husband's sisters - two are EVIL and one is a darling. 1/4 not great. Sigh. I wish they were nicer. I have simply given up.
  • I used to really like my sister-in-law in the beginning. But I have since then discovered that she is a two-faced lying little witch that loves to create drama in the family. Plus she made a horrible decision once where my son was concerned & I think she thinks her brother and I are the 'bad' parents... If I could divorce my in-laws and just keep the husband I would do it in a heartbeat!

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