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  • I'm the oldest of six and took care of my dysfunctional parents before caring for my infirmed mother-in-law. I've already had my kids.
  • Too much hard work. I haven't had enough fun myself so how can I teach them to do better? Can afford them. The environment is in bad enough shape as it is. I'd rather have no kids in the vain hope that someone else's kids can keep driving V8s for a few more years. :)
  • Because kids bring joy into everyones life!!! They control your heart after they're born... you would go to the end of the earth just so they dont have to feel pain... Kids are great... and unpredictable!
  • I lack the desire to have them. There are already too many people on the earth for the resources that we have and will have. I don't have what it takes to be a parent and know it. It's too hard to raise a child in today's society. I have a very low tolerance for screaming. I can't afford them.
  • I have never had any parental instincts and I don't want the responsibility of children. It is probably just as well for the child. Besides I suppose I am too selfish--I want to live my life on my terms.
  • I always say I don't want them..but I think it's more that I don't want them right now. I'm only 23, I have a bit of living to do on my own yet. Plus I know I don't have the parenting skills or income to support a child..at least not yet.
  • Right now, I don't have the financial capacity to support kids. That's why I don't wanna have any. But I'm open to having kids, if and when my financial standing allows it.
  • I can think of two main reasons..fear of the responsibility and not wanting to have to put another human being first..there may be other reasons as well..for women, fear of pain, losing their "figures", having to share their husbands..for men, definitely having to share their wives..so yes, Being Afraid and Being Self-Centered are probably the two main reasons. :( But there could be those who are unable to have children for physical reasons and may be unable to afford to adopt..those are the ones for whom I am very sad because being a mom is the most fun thing I've ever done in my entire life! :)
  • My personal reasons are rather selfish, I don't want to deal with the entanglements that come along with children, IE:marriage and the almost surety that I would lose the kids in a divorce, thus leaving my wages to probably well under 50% of what they should be.
  • Personally, I see the idea of having children as a job. And it's simply a job that I'm not interested in having. Not everyone is meant to have kids, just the same way everyone isn't meant to be a doctor.
  • It all comes down to selfishness. Not wanting to take care of another.
  • Well, I love babies, and I often voice my desire for a child. However, the world is getting really dark, and really scary. I'm starting to wonder if it's responsible to bring another child into this place, when there are so many who don't even have parents. I'm scared for the next generation.
  • As a person that does not want to have children and married to a woman of the same ilk, here is my perspective. 1) If you met our gene pool you would not want us to. 2) I think that bringing a human into an already over crowded world is just adding a burden to an already over burdened enviroment. 3) Cost. Not just personal finances, but social finances. We can hardly afford to educate and fund social programs. 4) Ego, I really think that most people procreate out of ego of expectation they are raised with. There is a societal and in many cases religious expectation that you will marry and birth children. 5) We enjoy the reduced stress of living a human childless life. We have animal children, and they will never grow up to be a rapist, child molestor, serial killer, etc. Do you want me to continue?
  • Having to raise them.
  • I think you have the question backwards. I don't think people need reasons not to have kids. I think they should only have kids if they are motivated by really strong reasons, responsibility, and commitment. Many people have kids and mistreat and neglect them. Many people have kids for selfish reasons that have nothing to do with whether or not they can or will provide long-term for the physical, emotional, and intellectual needs of the children. There are many reasons that having children shouldn't just be a given. Overpopulation is the most obvious. Long-term financial, time, and emotional commitment is another. Many people think that they are up to it, but aren't.
  • I think basically because they have the choice, which is something no other generation has never had. But I think some are scared off by fears of terrorism, and financial woes and overcrowding. These are things that have been faced by our ancestors for thousands of years and they got through it.
  • They don't feel they can stomach the dirty job of little children, and would rather not deal with the stress of raising them. I think many half minded people realise that once you have them, you CANT give them back, and don't want to run the risk. Some want to focus on a high powered career, or just want to live peacefully without disciplining screaming fighting kiddies all day! ALl those are why I'm never having them.
  • Too much hard work. Cost too much. Can't guarantee that I could teach them to be happy or to thrive. I'm not having enough fun myself. Life's too hard. Why would I want to pass it on to someone else? I don't want my kids to end up working for my boss's kids. Let the boss's kids do all the work themselves!
  • I think Singwell is right - just having the option not to have children, and not be considered a failure because of it leads a lot of people to think about whether or not they want kids, rather than just assume that they will do. Plus it's quite expensive to bring children up these days - I think some people are put off by the idea that they wouldn't be able to give the children a good upbringing.
  • I would say the intense global overpopulation problem, but people in Western societies are incredibly self-orientated and are probably concerned with more shallow issues. Some people have become so materialistic that they now consider consumerism to be their child.
  • I personally don't want kids right now because I am not financially secure and I don't have the need to have children as soon as possible. Kids can cost quite a bit of money. I have heard of many people who have told me that if they didn't have kids, they'd have at least a million dollars by that time. I have not sworn off kids though and maybe when the time is right, I might have them.
  • I would have been irresponsible for us to have children when we could hardly feed ourselves much of the time. Children are a joy, and I love to be around them.
  • These four come immediately to mind:
  • -There are enough children in the world already who need loving homes. If I ever decided to raise a child, I would adopt or foster. -I don't feel any biological urge to reproduce, become pregnant, and give birth. People talk about their biological clock and aching for a baby, and it just hasn't happened to me. -Honestly, I don't want to undergo the changes that would happen to my body because of pregnancy and birth. So many women have told me that they were never the same afterwards. - I like babies. Babies are cute. But when they start crying and pooping and spitting on me, I can give them back to their caregiver and go somewhere else. I am a quiet person. Screaming babies = no. - Similarly, I like kids. I like babysitting. I like hanging out with them for a little while. I would be a cool auntie. But at the end of the day, I am so happy to give them back to their parents so I can take a nap and do the quiet things I enjoy like reading, writing, knitting, etc. - I like having the freedom to travel, move to a new city, stay out all night, play loud music and eat crappy food without having to worry about the effect on a vulnerable, impressionable, needy child. I want to be romantic with my guy as a couple and not as parents. I want to meet more people and explore the world. Children will root me down in place and I'm not interested in that. - I can hardly afford to pay for my heating bill this winter, much less raise a kid for 18+ years. I have student loans until forever, one killer credit card bill that will take me ages to pay off, and no assets at all. I'm stressed out about finances as it is and I think economic times are going to get MUCH harder soon, so I'll just hang on to my current economic level for dear life, thank you very much. - My genes suck. My upbringing was weird. I'm moody and difficult to deal with, I am not the most patient person on earth and I have no idea what to do around children. I am not the ideal candidate for that position. There is enough of a population crisis in the world right now that we can say, some people are not cut out to be parents, let's let the experts do the job and hopefully do it better.
  • I just never had the desire to have any. I can't think of too many things more selfish than creating a human life just to satisfy some personal desire.
  • Kids are brats and cost you a fortune,they screw up your sex life. Thats about all I can think of.
  • My husband and I have chosen not to have children. Many people feel it's so selfish of us to not 'share' our lives with children and that we are just too into ourselves. I've never understood this. I see people having children for really silly reasons. I see people having kids who don't act like they want them or each other after a awhile. We didn't want to bring children into such a crowded harsh world. I see how much harder it is for kids nowadays than it was for us. And we just plain love each other and have too good a time still getting to know each other and doing what we want , when we want, how we want, after 34 years of marriage. This is all the family we need and want. We think we ARE complete with just two people. We still spend 24/7 with each other. We ARE big kids. We have pets and enjoy our simple family life. We do love other people's kids. Young people seem to like spending time with us. We're cooler than their parents, even though we do discipline them and expect them to behave. But it is so nice to give them back after a time and bring back the quiet to our home.
  • 1. Knowing that anything and everything could go wrong 2. Not wanting to pass on my disabilities 3. Not wanting to contribute to overexpansion 4. Not wanting to go through horrid pain 5. Not being financially stable 6. Not wanting to lose the tiny bit of freedom I have 7. Worrying about the state of my health, and that I have three health problems that can get worse from birthing 8. Not having any good reason to have children 9. My life is already too challenging 10. I just don't have the baby desire As for adopting...that's out of the question. Who would want to give me a child to take care of, when I can't take care of myself?
  • my mother said she had a note that would explain this to me... she said she kept it for years and then lost it! i will never know!
  • I would gladly take in a child that needed a parent.
  • i like kids, i just cant make them by myself

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