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  • im so sorry i know how you feel as i lost my sister 4 yrs ago. you just have to work through it. it will hurt for a long time . it does get better after awhile i know now it doesnt feel that way
  • You don't have to go through this alone. You can call any church (whether you belong on not)and they have grief councelors who will be there for you every step of the way. They will not bring religion into it if that is your choice. Please call and they will help you through your grief so you don't feel alone. My deepest sympathies at this most difficult time.
  • I am so sorry you are having to deal with this prettybird. My sympathies. I agree with babycakes, check with a church and look in to counseling. If you have any close relatives or friend you can talk to and share things with that will help too. Best of luck, and (((hugs))).
  • My condolences, prettybird. All I can say is find someone you can talk to. And remember this takes time to get over so don't rush it.
  • Prettybird, you sound like you got a terrible double blow. I am very sorry for the loss of your loved ones. Maybe you can find a local group of bereaved individuals for companionship and support? They had bereavement groups at my vet for people who had animals who died, I am sure they may have something for people who lost close relatives. Pray to God for comfort and he will sustain you.
  • To my Mother We little knew that day that God was going to call your name; In life we loved you dearly,in death we do the same;it broke our hearts to lose you.You did not go alone. For part of us went with you the day God called you home:You left us peaceful memories,your love is still our guide;And though we cannot see you,you are always at our side.Our family chain is broken and nothing seems the same;But as God calls us one by one the chain is linked again.
  • Sweetie i know how much it hurts to lose your Mom. I lost my Mom last year and i was only 16! Just think of the wonderful memories you 2 had. It may be sad but it is also wonderful to think about the good times. if you ever need anyone to talk to you can email me. Take Care
  • Prettybird I am so sorry for your loss. I know this must be hard for you especially after losing your son not so long ago. I agree you need to get some help from somewhere. Either your church or some sort of support group to help you get through this. I wish you much luck
  • Prettybird, I don't know that this will help but I hope it does. I am not goin to say I know how you feel. No one else can. Even when we lose our mothers, it is different because our mothers are all unique. I will not say it will get better, and all the other cliches, because from where I stand , there is no end in sight. What I will say is that it is okay to hurt. It is okay to cry. It is okay to need help. I know some of the pain you are feeling because my husband died about 2 hours before you posted this question. I know what I am feeling, and I know that there is nothing to make it better right now. I know it will get better someday, but right now I am embracing my pain and grief like a friend. It will help, because I have to embrace them to be able to heal and move on someday. Also, I would guess that if your mom lived with you, she was probably either your best friend or close to it, and that makes it really hard to. My husband really was my best friend and it is so painful to know that he is not coming back. I imagine you feel that way at times too. I am sorry. Those two words may not sound like much, but they come from the deepest place in my heart.
  • i am so sorry for you. remember though, you are not alone. part of life is death and its not an easy thing to accept but it is the inevitable. i don't know the situation or anything but i lost my best friend a year and half ago to cancer, she was 26. i felt really angry that she didn't get to live her life but now i can only feel grateful that i got to know that special soul of hers. we should appreciate the time we had with our loved ones and remember your mom wants you to be happy and healthy. mourn but don't dwell, you are still living remember that. good luck to you.
  • you have my sympathies on the passing away of your mother. the loss of a loved one is very hard to accept! time has a way of erasing the pain you feel right now. however, i believe in the hope the bible offers regarding those that have gone to sleep in death. when jesus christ was here on earth he performed several resurrections to prove he has the power to return to life those who have died. on one occasion he mentioned that one of these was asleep. this is how you might want to understand that your mother is in a deep sleep which one day jesus christ will be able to recall from. john 5:28,29 says: "do not marvel at this, because the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out," i dream of the day that i will be able to welcome my loved ones back into my arms. i believe also that this is possible because the God of the bible has promised this. titus 1:1 says he cannot tell a lie. because of this i have hope in the future. i hope this consoles you and i highly recommend to you that you get to know your bible. for more information you can visit www.watchtower.org i wish you the best and may Jehovah God bless you through his son Jesus Christ.
  • I've been going thru the same thing, except it was my dad. It is so soon since you lost your mom, you'll need more time to think clear again. But, you will. The grief is unbelievable at times, you think your heart is going to die, nothing seems the same, NOTHING! And it will never be the same. You have to except that this is real, and that you must keep living. No words can make you feel better, just lean on friends and family and take one day, one night, one step at a time. You'll begin to heal, usually in about 6 months. You are not alone. ((((((((((((HUG)))))))))))))
  • I know what if fells I last my Mother January 12 2008. It was at midnight when I received the bad news and until now I ca't get over it, is so painful to think I will not be able to hug her again. Just remenber good memories when I was a child and growing up. Some times God is unfear taking the love ones away. She passed away sleeping and tha was what she wished, when she was a live. God took her and she did not sufer to get there. well that what i think God knows what they feel when that happens. Ramos Corvallis Or.
  • God will be more than willing to help you through these hard times your having, He is really the only one that can give us true healing from our wounds and hurts..I am truly sorry for your losses and you will be in my prayers :)
  • i am sure your mother would want you to go on with your life - so, get on with it!
  • i feel your pain..my mom died of copd 2 years ago and it was like it took my life..my mom was my world.but seeing her suffer hurt me..i miss my mom everyday and sometimes still hear her call my name but i know shes in a better place..idont know what was her cause of death but it is hard . and you will never forget her.i can still remember my moms smell. and it brings a smile and some tears. its still early for you honey but in time you will except the fact that shes gone and learn to live with her memories.. it will be hard for sometime..but time heals all pain..be strong and god bless you
  • God bless you. Hang in there and time will heal the pain. Your mother will always be with you. I have never lost a parent and can only imagine how you feel. God will be there for you.
  • I am very, very sorry. I wish words could do more than they CAN do, because so many of us would comfort you if we could. You're going through some life-altering events. When you lose someone you love so much, it's as if an important light source goes out, and it isn't going to come back. Yet other lights grow, and there's a mellowing and strengthening that comes after a while. For a time it seems as though you can never feel happy again. In time you work through that, and you DO feel happiness again, though it's a happiness tempered with what I'll call wisdom (for want of a better word). I think we all feel with you and wish you comfort. Be well, prettybird, as soon as you can.
  • My first recommendation is contact te funeral provider to get a referral to grief counseling. You can also do that through your local hospital, county health department or church. You can also call te National Crisis Line at 1-800-273-8255 The worst problems always seem to come on weekends and night which makes the National Crisis Line so important. They are there for you 24/7 Sorry for your loses. It is particularily hard losing two people so close in such a short period of time.
  • Prettybird, xoxoxoxo (kisses on the cheek) *I'm baking you virtual reality brownies* No real answer here, but you're in my heart. Just wanted you to know!!

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