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  • Very patiently. Set clear standards. Be consistent in your discipline. Spend time with them. Train them. Explain things to them.
  • While I know it wouldn't be easy, with love, patience and understanding. With help from family, friends, and professionals. With faith and determination. This is obviously a child in pain who is reaching out for attention in any way possible.
  • First Don't focus on what they are doing so much as WHY they are doing it. Step Back Look at their life & your life. Why whould you act like that, why would you be angry or eny other "troublemakeing" traits? it may sound cliche but it's the environment or something that is bothering them to the point of lashing out. they are trying to relieve something. Put you self outside of the Box & try to see what it is. Maybe its something that happened years ago that they never talked about. Don't sell the kid short & put them on medication. Thats not the answer, Thats not the cure. The problem will still be ther just masked.
  • First Don't focus on what they are doing so much as WHY they are doing it. Step Back Look at their life & your life. Why whould you act like that, why would you be angry or any other "troublemakeing" traits? it may sound cliche but it's the environment or something that is bothering them to the point of lashing out. they are trying to relieve something. Put you self outside of the Box & try to see what it is. Maybe its something that happened years ago that they never talked about. Don't sell the kid short & put them on medication. Thats not the answer, Thats not the cure. The problem will still be ther just masked.
  • I had that child! I found that the biggest reason he got into trouble was because he was bored (this was at school), so we asked the teacher to give him more work to keep him busy. We found the same at home, if we kept him busy, had him help getting dinner etc he didn't have time to get himself into trouble. We also set up a chart system, where he got points for doing cerain things and points taken for specific things (we had a specific number of points for specific behaviours). The points could then be exchanged for things we considered to be privileges - playing video games, watching TV, having friends over to play, going to get icecream etc. Praise for good behaviour was important and not yelling at him for bad behaviour (rather, calmy saying "that just cost you x points)This worked really well for our son (he was in second grade at the time). He is now in 5th grade and while not perfect, he is far better, in fact he's a pleasure to have around.
  • Sometimes the shortest answer is best: Love them.
  • Punishment is good. You don't have to throw your kids down the stairs (although that worked pretty well for me). Just make sure your kid gets unhappy really fast and knows it's because of his bad behavior. And when good behavior happens, do some quick rewarding. Psychologists say so.
  • "Trouble" means different things to different people. I would say that as long as the child doesn't act violently or is cruel to others, he or she may just be being a child.

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