ANSWERS: 19
  • Because self-deception, is, in my opinion, one of the greatest evils in the world. I would rather remain true to myself, my beliefs, my existence, and be hated, than force myself to be something I'm not for someone else.
  • It's more important to be yourself than to be an imposter. If you're controversial, so be it. At least you're genuine.
  • The "emphasis" in that statement is on "Being true to yourself" ... the emphasis is not on the hatred. It is not that the hatred is good, it is that you are being yourself that is good. The hatred part is better than the love part, because with the hatred, you are being true to yourself ... this is better than being loved for living a lie.
  • Kurt Cobain said that. I totally agree because then you get the only respect that matters: self respect. Conformity is not always a good thing.
  • Here's the deal. If someone doesn't like you for who you are...tough. At least you're being true to yourself. However, if you change yourself to make someone love you, you're lying to yourself and that's not something that I personally can abide by. What good is the hatred? Hey, it's not good...but at least I'm not selling out my beliefs to be liked.
  • It is the lesser of two evils. It is better to be hated for what you believe in, and who you are, because it is the most real thing to you; thus, your truth.
  • well, if somebody hated me because they were jealous of me in some way, then i would have something over them, at least in their mind. if somebody loved me because they thought i was a really horrible person, then that wouldn't be so great.
  • The point isn't that it's better to be hated. It's better to be seen for who you really are, for better or worse.
  • At least you are true to yourself. That's more important than outside opinions, anyway. In this saying, what good is the love? They don't really love you; they love who they THINK you are. Its an illusion.
  • because why would you want anyone to love you for who your not? like for example people love the celebrities for what they see and how they act. but we all know thats not really who they are... its all a front. so why would you want to be loved for an act your playing in the first place. i'd rather be hated for who i am.
  • It would mean that you are true to yourself.That is a good thing.
  • http://theautonomist.com/aaphp/permanent/phil_gen/hated.php maybe this will help you understand those people. =D
  • Being loved for who you are not isn't really being loved at all because what is 'being loved' about you doesn't really exist. It would be just as easy to say "It is better to be loved for who you are that to be loved for who you are not" BUT then that would remove the example of conflict and judgment that often comes with staying true to one's self when it goes against the societal norms of the time or even just the accepted ways of those closest to you. In other words, if you can be loved for who you really are, great, but if you will be hated for who you really are, then so be it as that is still better than being loved for who you are not. On a side note, this was originally said by André Gide and the exact quote is, "It is better to be hated for what you are than to be loved for what you are not."
  • At least you KNOW what you're getting with a less than "perfect" personality! With the OTHER kind, you're getting a two-faced individual which, in MY book, is despicable! I LOATHE people like that!
  • i hate my daughters b/f for what he is,the idiot
  • That's not the point of the quote. The point of it is that if you're pretending to be someone you are not, then that is who you are loved for, not for your actual self. If you are yourself, at least you know the other person's real feelings about you.
  • why not keep it real,I dis-like fake people
  • It's true, at least you're being honest. I respect a lot of people whose opinions go against everything I believe, simply because I know where I stand with them, the ones that pretend, you never know where you stand with them.
  • Face it folks; no matter how loveable we may think we are - and perhaps most other people think we are - there will be a few who inexplicably hate us. Pretending to be "someone else" is alot of work; the added bonus is that we will STILL have people who'll hate us. If we are trying to make ourselves into something we're not, in order to pursue a romantic relationship? What a disaster. There's no one alive who can maintain a facade 24/7, and not only will the "faker" get worn out, but so will the other person. In fact, this other person will probably not have initially "hated" the faker; a few years of lies and BS and he/she certainly will wind up hating. None of this to say that there aren't areas of our lives that we should make every effort to improve, making ourselves more loveable in the process, rather than being inertly "true to ourselves" right to the bitter end.

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