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  • I am sorry for your loss. My first bit of advice is that you should take care of yourself. Take time to sleep and eat properly. If you neglect yourself you will get worn out and all this will be much harder on you and those around you. It's okay to be a little selfish right now. Call on those close to you to share things like meals and child care too. Many hands make the burden less. This might be a good time to make a memory book and to share those good memories with family and friends. Ask them to contribute as well. Lastly, think about how your mother would want you to handle this loss. If she believed in an afterlife that would be happy and free of pain then be happy for her. She is free of this mortal coil, and while you and your family will miss her, is at rest now.
  • Jen, am so sorry to hear that, you and your family are in our thoughts. ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))) http://media.photobucket.com/image/sympathy/tggrcutiepie/Sympathy/sympathyCondolences355B15D.jpg?o=9
  • Jen-Jen I am very sorry for your loss, I hope your mother lived a very good happy life. Do not let people suck you into the relegious mind set during these hard times, this happened to my Grandma when her husband died. You and your family should go to each other for support and then have a get together to talk about it and figure out where you are going from here. Remember we all die, it is a fact of life and your mom is free from all pain and suffering now, and does not have a worry in the world.
  • i'm sorry sweetie ... i know what that is like as i have lost both of my parents unexpectedly ... hopefully you have some real friends nearby to help give you comfort ... i know that there isn't a whole lot any one can say to make you feel better, but i can tell you that peace will return
  • Really sorry to hear about that... stay close with your family, use their support and support them. Dont go through this alone.
  • I'm sorry for this. Please add me as a friend and if you need to talk to someone don't mind talking....I will listen. I hope you deal well with this hard time and eventually find peace again with yourself and with your family. Life is like that. But it has to go on. Live with her memory and remember she will always be a part of you.
  • Oh Sweetheart, I'm so very sorry to hear that. Please accept my deepest regards and condolence. There is never a good time for this to happen and we must carry on with the business at hand, for the sake of our loved ones. Strength runs deep within you and I know you have what it takes to hold your family together. You and your family are in my thoughts.
  • Oh honey, I'm so sorry. So you didn't even have time to prepare? Can I offer advice? Find something to give thanks for even in this. I lost my mom two years ago next month after a very long battle with cancer. If nothing else, give thanks that she died peacefully without suffering. It makes it harder on you to lose her that way, but it is so much easier on her. Give thanks that you didn't have to watch her waste away slowly in great pain. When you give thanks, it frees you from the "what ifs" and "if onlys." It allows you to concentrate on what you had together and on the good times and let go of the pain and grief, if only a little. It will take a long time for that wound to heal and hair over, but that is only in proportion to how much you loved her. There is never a good time to lose your mom, but it comes to all of us sooner or later. None of us get out of it, unless we die young. The only thing we get to choose is how we respond to it. I'd give you a hug if I could, but I'm limited by this dang machine. Honey, go spend some time with someone whose arms can reach you. You need comfort now, and there is only so much we can do.
  • Strength will come; one day at a time and sometimes it's one hour at a time. Sending you ((((((((hugs)))))) and know that while the pain will never go away, it will soften. Try to remember the good memories and know that Mom is no longer suffering. She lives forever in your hearts!
  • Wow... you don't know how sorry I am for you. Your Mother who has been there for you is now gone, I cant imagine you having a more sad moment than now. I know that your family is grieving right now, but look at the bright side, her suffering of heart attacks and strokes will never hurt her again. She is with God now. With love and regard, Ariiie
  • Jen, I'm sorry to hear about your mother. I remember you had a love/hate relationship with her, but at times like this, it doesn't matter... You remember the good times you had together, and it hurts badly. For yourself, and your family, write stories filled with memories of your mother. It helps, I know. Maybe everyone in the family could do this. Good or bad, she was your Mom, and it will hurt for a while. Some will hurt longer than others, remember that. Again, I'm sorry for your and your family's loss.
  • hon remember when your daughter was looking for a name for her new kitten? jen-jen hold your daughter and suby close taking comfort from your family and friends. http://www.mournememories.com/images/gallery/cards/grief.jpg
  • my prayers and thoughts are with you.
  • I'm so sorry, Jen. My prayers are with you. Warm hugs.
  • I am sorry for your loss. I am not sure what kind of closeness you 2 had but always remember the good times. I know it seems hard sometimes in a life of bad times but there are ALWAYS a few good times. She would want you to think of the good times. My sympathy goes to you.
  • I don't know you, I dont know if I can sy anything constructive but I am thinking of you and if nothing else, I wish I could take the pain away from you. Pain of grief (especially when I'm not personally involved) seems like such a sad thing - I can only share it with you for a little moment on AB but my 'share' is honest. :-)
  • I am really sorry to hear about your mother,I pray that god gives you the strength to get though this difficult time, the only thing you can do is to be there for each other at this time, to comfort each other and hold on to all the good times you had. People we love will also be with us in spirt if not body,
  • Jen-Jen, I am so sorry for your loss. I wish there was something I could say or do to make you feel better. ((hugs)). We'll be thinking of you and your family.
  • (((((Jen-Jen))))) There are no words that will take away the pain and sorrow. You 'will' find the strength within.
  • im sorry the best you can do is to hug them and let them know your there for them some people will take that offer with oppen arms some it may take time. Know that everyone reacts to losing someone in difrent ways some cry some act as if nothing is wrong and some shut everyone out... But know this they never mean anything hurtful they say. so to be honest just let them now they have you there for them, never take offense to what they say and when they do need somebody to lean on be there for them. they will apriciate that in the long run also know that sometimes theres nothing you can do. this makes you fell crapy but its reality. i hope your okay as well
  • I'm so sorry, Jen-Jen. I don't know what I could say that would help. Big cyber hug!
  • Honey, darling Jen-Jen, I am so sorry for your loss -- I DONT know how you feel or anything close, but I do know I love you as if you were my own family so I will do anything in my power to help you heal. Remember that, wo cares what anyone thinks. I am here when you need me, anytime for any problem.
  • I'm so sorry to hear about this. My deepest condolences to you and your family. You will all be in my thoughts and prayers. Please take good care of yourself and know that the kind people of AB will be here to support you in whatever way they're able.
  • Thats so sad and im sorry to hear that. Well Im not going to lie but only time will heal this and you have to be strong about this. I wish you the best of luck.
  • I'll pray for you, your family, and your mother. I lost my own wonderful mother in 1987, so I really do know how awful it feels. My mother was my only parent, and to this day, I still cry about her "leaving" me. +5
  • im sorry to hear about your loss. the strength that you are looking for is from all the support from your family friends and loved ones. just remember she'll always be w you. stay strong.
  • (((HUGS)))) Form one Jen JEn to another , prayer is the only thing that will help you make your way though the grief. Remember this The Lord had call on your Mother to come on home. You and your Sister and family will make it though. May God Bless you and your family. (((hugs)))
  • You know how I feel about you, Jen-Jen. I'm always here for you if you need me. {{{HUGS}}}
  • I am so sorry for your loss, i know this may not mean much comeing from the internet, i really know what it feels like to loose loved ones, i have lost my fair share. You will get mostly over this in time, but there is no cure for this other then time.
  • So sorry for your loss. My thoughts and best wishes are with you.
  • Jen-Jen..I am very sorry that your mom has passed..looking at your photo's she looks like a great character..and its plain to see that the family are very close..my love, wishes and thoughts go out to you and your family (((((HUGS)))))
  • Do not deny yourself or your family the right to mourn, because no doubt, your mother is worth grieving over. Some things in life are not worth grieving over - traffic tickets, spilling your drink, etc. but denying grief to a figure as grand as mom, or grandma is like saying that they shouldn't have existed in your life in the first place. Grieving is healthy. Also remember that no two people grieve the same way. Some are visibly mournful, others are silently numb for a time. Each individual should be allowed to cope in their own fashion free of guilt for not mourning "correctly."

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