• "Sorry to hear about your recent difficulties. Please let me know if there is anything I can do." And then follow through by inviting them to some events.
  • As long as it's the truth, tell her that you'll be there for her to listen with open ears and a closed mouth. If anything, she needs to know that her friends will remain with her even if her husband doesn't. If it's one of those friendships that carry across spouses (bunches of couples as friends), then the group needs to work together. Just because their marriage is changing doesn't mean they should lose their friends. Being supportive doesn't mean picking one side over the other. DO NOT bad-mouth the estranged, no matter how tempting it may be. "Recently" could mean there's a possiblity of reconciliation, and it could make your friendship awkward later on if you voice nasty opinions of him. Sure, you can express your ire at his actions (if ire is justified), but don't criticize the past or his personal attributes.

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