ANSWERS: 42
  • learn to ignore it. cuz it will never stop. ur always going to be looked down on for it. either put up with it, or go back to wonderful white guys :]
  • Ignore it. Love knows no color and all who think it's wrong are just ignorant fools.
  • By not caring what ignorant people think.
  • Ignore the ignorant. Color or ethnicity isn’t a characteristic, and if that very few don’t understand that, then to bad for them.
  • It's not your problem - it's theirs.
  • You can always expect this when you put yourself into a controversial place. Either you can deal with or you can't. Just know that you are helping to make a change the world needs. It doesn't happen fast.
  • By not worrying about what other people think of you, they are the ones filled with hate and are miserable..
  • As long as you are happy with this guy and hes happy with you hold your head up high! to hell with who ever is saying shit.....i like to think if people are talking about me it keeps me in the spot light or they are jealousy. my fav quote of people who are jealous "jealousy is a nasty disease....get well soon bitch(es)"
  • It is going to be tough without question. One of the things I have learned in life is you have to sometimes take the high road or pick your battles. Even though it is more common, interracial dating is still considered controversial. Some people are always going to have a problem with it and that's one thing that when people starting dating other races, frankly, are going to have to accept. Is it right to be ridiculed? Of course not, but you have to be a realist. That view is not going to change with some people and you are going to be called names. You have to ask yourself if you can take it or not. I think the question you need to ask yourself is "Is the man you are dating worth it?" If the answer is yes, then when someone says something smile and say "I am sorry you feel that way" and enjoy your relationship. Good luck to you.
  • Fuck em. It's your life. People never really change. The ones who look down on you, or judge you, or whatever, will always do that. Find positive people and stick with them.
  • If I were you, I would just completely ignore it. I mean, anybody who has a problem with something like that is an ignorant, prejudiced sack of crap, and do you really give a damn what somebody like that thinks? I thought not. If you like this guy, then that's all that matters, not what some dumb-ass racist has to say about it!
  • In one ear and out the other.
  • Quite frankly,I'd just tell them to F*** off if they don't like it-It's YOUR lives,not theirs!!! Haters are all alike,then they cling to compassion.The nerve of em! Have a great life!*+++++*
  • If you really love this guy, and would consider marrying him, ignore what people say, but if those people are freinds and family, then make sure you have discussion about why you love him. He may or may not be familiar with a different culture, so make sure that each of you understand cultural differences that might affect dicision making: communication is key. If you plan on getting married and having kids, a point of incouragement, interracial kids generally have stronger bodies and immune systems from the genetic diversity.
  • Sweetheart I know what you are going through. Though my situation is a bit different than yours I am a middle aged man (Just turned 47) abd about a year ago I was in the best and most love filled relationship of my life with a very beautiful and sweet young lady who was half my age. I got called child molestor rapist pervert dirty old man cradle robber I had people I believed to be friends tell me if that was their daughter they would be finding my rotting decaying corpse in a ditch somewhere with a bullet in my skull I had people look at me like I was some sort of sick degenerate monster every time we would kiss. I truly loved her and I know without a doubt sahe truly loved me and I have no regrets about being with her except for one. That I didn't get together with her alot sooner than I did. I knew her for nearly 6 years before we got together in a relationship. She was barely 18 when we met and it was on her 21st birthday that I realized I was falling inlove with her. It took me over 2.5 years before I could tell her how I felt because of worrying about hopw others would react or what they would have to say and you know what I was a fool. If you love this man and he loves you let nothing stand in your way of being with him and being happy. Don't think because you are young that you will have your whole life with him. One of you could die tomorrow without warning like my girlfriend did and just think of all the regret you would be filled with if you let stupid ignorant racist people keep you from being with someone you love.
  • I am white and I married a black woman from the south. The south has a real problem with this issue. Heck, there are parts of the south that are still fighting the civil war! We live in California, and the west coast is much more accepting of mixed race marriages. All I can suggest is either ignore it or move to the west!
  • To hell with them. Ignore them.
  • stop dating a black man .
  • Stop caring what other people think. What they're doing says more about them than it says about you.
  • you have to be strong inside,grow as a person so the coments you hear dont go past your ears, they are not worth processing as thoughts.enjoy yourself, be wary of fools you dont owe it to them to give them pity. if the people saying nasty things are friends or family, asses there issues or your friendships. this happens everyday all over the world, you are not alone.
  • get revenge. give them a thorough beating. that will show them don't fuck with you.
  • move away from the closed minded racists and folks who think that love cares about race
  • Treat them the same way you would treat an annoying little kid -- ignore them or respond with an occasional witty and haughty remark. That's how I deal with bigoted assholes, usually.
  • Ignore it. All that matters is that you are happy. I've gotten crap for some of my relationships in the past as well, and anyone who has a problem with the person you date is not worth knowing or dealing with.
  • Congratulate yourself. You will make it easier for others to date in the same way in the future.
  • I've traveled all over the world and in most countries it goes unnoticed. Tell these assholes that he doesn't beat you, he is not a drunk, not a junkie, and respects you and treats you like a lady. tell them to find the same thing and keep out of your personal life if they can't accept your choices.
  • Brainwash yourself that racism does not exist?
  • People are going to say what they are going to say. The best thing to do is to ignore them, but if it turns into harrassment, and they won't back off; then depending on the situation you should call the police. Thats what I would do.
  • If THE NAMES ARE A PROBLEM FOR YOU THEN YOU HAVE AS SMALL A MIND AS THEY DO.
  • my ex-wife is black and i'm white.i have been called everything you have and not one single word ever drew blood.get over now it,won't end.
  • There's nothing you can do but ignore them.
  • Ok, I would do this if I felt safe. I would laugh at them and give them a look of pity at the same time. The laughter helps you forget what was just said and the pity is honest, because they are scum of the earth. No one likes to be laughed out, especially if they are trying to bully and be cruel. +4
  • Im also a white female dating a black mand and ive never had the problem. But if i did my reaction would be pitty for the person saying those things, Imagine how sad it would be waking up every single day being that person with that out look on life and that little to do. Inside their head would be miserable. Dont let it get to you, your Happiness comes from you no one else.
  • I will quote someone I agree with: "Some people will accept you, some will not. Unfortunately many people are still narrow minded enough to think that skin color is an acceptable way to judge people. When you surround yourself with people who see beyond that, then things will work out for you. " http://www.answerbag.com/q_view/461972
  • it is your choice and do not care what others are saying .
  • You just have to realize that some people are ignorant and get on with your happy life. Does it matter what color anyone is in the long run?
  • "If you can not change the people around you, you may need to change the people around you!"
  • Sing Ebony and Ivory LOUDLY, and ignore them.
  • tell him clearly and politely that u donot want to be called by this name even he likes to call u by that .It is u who should like the call and not the caller should get pleasure out of it . It is my personal
  • Ignore them.
  • Repeat after me: Sticks and stones may break my bones but YOUR words can never hurt me! Nya nya nya!!!!!
  • You don't deal with it. Dogs will bark as it's all they know. Doesn't mean you must deal with all dogs that bark. If your man is treating you right and you're happy as well then no one else matters. You simply look that person in the eye and say "he keeps he happier than something like you ever will"

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