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  • Look at what you're going to become.
  • dont tell her anything, do one of those horrible smokers coughs were parts of your lungs come up and spit it out then say well i hope you never smoke.
  • Do as I say, not as I do. Its bad for you, and will eventually kill you. I think if you gave a good shot at quitting, it might make her realize that it isnt worth it.
  • You will not be successful no matter what you say. You can show her your example by quitting yourself.
  • Show her some photos of smoker's lungs: http://images.google.com/images?q=smokers%20lungs&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a&um=1&sa=N&tab=wi Tell her that she needs to quit, and that you're going to quit, too; make a deal that every time you "cheat" and smoke a cig, you give her money - a dollar, five dollars, whatever - and she does the same for you every time she smokes.
  • I am having a very, very similar convo with my little sister here soon. I think I'm going to say something like, "I know you see/saw me doing these things, but look at me. It makes me look bad, it makes me stink, I look kindof like an idiot when I do it. I don't want you to do the same thing." I'm also going to tell her all of the annoying things about it, and how someone else turned out when they did it too and how negatively it turned out for them. Also tell her that you are of age and that it is legal for you to smoke, but not for her. That might make a difference, but it might not. Good luck.
  • Explain to her how it can become a bad habit and also what health issues you are having because of it.
  • Tell her you dont approve of her smoking until she is old enough to buy the cigarettes and that you dont want to see her with another one. I wish when i got caught at 15 my dad would have told me that instead of telling me "well if your gonna do it than do it infront of me not behind my back" maybe i wouldnt be struggling to quit now.
  • Be honest with her - tell her that you wish you had never taken up the habit yourself, because it is so difficult to quit and has a negative effect on your health and your energy level. Tell her the more cigarettes she smokes, the more nicotine receptors develop that need to be satisfied, and the harder it will be to quit.
  • You cant, it would be hypocritical. Tell that to yourself.
  • I would tell her all your addiction to it (I'm a smoker too) and tell her how incredibly hard it is to quit after very long. I would tell her (if it's true) how much you regretted starting and wished you could stop. I would also recommend non-judgemental discussion and honesty about your own problems with smoking. It's not a moral issue, it's a health issue. We all make mistakes and you just don't want her to make some that you've made. I think that puts you in a good position to be engaged in an open discussion with her if you are honest about yourself and gentle with her.
  • 1. That you're an addict, and you want a better life for her than being an addict, so she should quit before the habit is long-established. 2. Sit her down with a piece of paper on which you've calculated, for your own life so far: how many packs per day x 365 x number of years you've been smoking = total packs. Ask her to think about that: at 20 (?) cigarettes per pack, and (7? minutes) per cigarette, that comes up to how many hours of your life have been wasted on this? 3. Take the same total packs number and multiply it by today's price per pack (to account for inflation, use today's prices). Ask her to think about what that number could pay for. Maybe you'll have to put it in terms of what you could have bought for her with that money: a car? a year of college? vacations for the whole family every year? or put it in terms of your own retirement, or a mortgage. 4. Tell her you're sorry about all the smoke you've exposed her to, before and after birth, and how if she (and your other kids?) get earaches or have asthma or are susceptible to lung infections, you always wonder if it's your fault that your children are suffering. 5. Tell her you're sorry to have been a bad example. Tell her you can't promise to be a better example, but agree WITH HER to TRY WITH HER. You'll try to quit if she tries. You may fail, and you hope she won't fail, but at least you are willing to try with her. I'm sorry you are in this situation. I know it's really tough. I don't know if any of these ideas will be helpful, but I'll be wishing you (and her) luck. :) My mother smoked five packs a day for over thirty years, and is now suffering greatly for it. Anyone who wants to quit has my wholehearted support.
  • Tell her that the world is an awful place for smokers, full of pompous busybodies trying to tell you how to run your life. Tell her that the price of cigarettes will only be pushed up higher and higher by interfering know-it-all interest groups and the places she will be allowed to smoke in will be systematically eradicated by those acting in the "public good". Tell her that her eyes will be opened to the full force of modern fascism leveled upon smokers and that she will be outraged every time another BS meta study is concocted, furthering the agenda of those who hate her for a lifestyle choice. Tell her life is better for a non-smoker in hundreds of ways, the health aspect being the least. Tell her the ignorance of not being a smoker truly is bliss.
  • Dont go into a long drawn out explaination. By doing that, your only preaching and she will close her ears to anything you have to say. This is where you do one thing and hope you dont have to do the other. 1. Tell her that this is not open for discussion. For her to smoke is against the law. Take her ciggs and throw them away. If this doesnt work then try number 2. 2. go to the store and buy her a fresh pack of ciggs. sit her down and make her smoke the entire pack. Dont worry.. she wont get past 4 or 5 ciggs before she starts to turn green. This mickey mouse BS and doctor spock crap doesnt work in todays society. Only tough love.
  • YOU are the PARENT, even though you do something out of line, like smoke, doesn't mean you dont't have the right to show authority.She isn't old enough to decide yet, that is why the system made you legal gaurdian till she is 21.
  • give up and tell her she is doing the same unless she wants to lose all contact with the outside world.
  • Try to quit together, I suppose. If you told her to quit but did not yourself, it would be kind of hypocritical.
  • the only thing you can do ...offer to give them up if she does ...you know its the right thing to do and then you can help each other and support each other in giving up
  • Give up. Say that you are regretting of starting to smoke, and how dangerous it can be. Say that it would not be easy to give up at the later stages when she would come to understand the ill effects.
  • lead by example .. quit and encourage her to help you. spend the money you save on an outing that you both can enjoy. mini golf on the weekends ?
  • You explain to her that smoking can be an unhealthy pastime if done to excess, you can tell her you wished you never started, ( if that's true that is - if you honestly enjoy smoking then don't lie about it ). You can plunish her, ( a bad idea ), lecture her, ( she most likely wont lissen anyway ), uou might try bribing her to quit even or perhaps you can just come to grips with it like your parents came to grips with your smoking back when you were your daughters age. Really ! We're talking about cigarettes here - not crack cocane or meth, it's tobacco leaves rolled in paper which provides many who use it a simple relaxing pleasure....If she's a smoker and she's 14 then she allready knows the possible drawbacks do overindulgence of this minor "vice", and frankly if she still wants to smoke then she's going to keep up with it no matter what you say. I'm sorry, but I don't see what the problem is here, 14 is sort of young to start smoking but not dramatically so, when did you start smoking for example - in high school? Most people do, which is the normal time to start at 15 or 16, so getting worried about a year or two is silly isn't it ? If you don't want to seem the bigoted hypocrite here - my advice is to just say you don't approve of her smoking yet and leave her alone. She will either quit on her own, ( as most people do ), or she will just be following in her mothers footsteps, just as you probably did yourself with your mother. Good greif ! When did the simple pleasure of tobacco use become the scourage of humanity ? Get a grip on reality here people !
  • Try this: "Make you a deal, if you stop, I stop". Then do it.
  • The major influence on her is that you don't care about smoking as a serious issue, she definitely feels in this way as you smoke: how can you realize this to your teen.Parents who smoke don't have a leg to stand on. It's no use trying the "look what mom has to go through...you don't want to be like this do you?" It simply won't do, doesn't work. Just forget it. Stop smoking if you want to stop your teens from smoking. Get help. Do whatever you have to, but toss that illusion. You will not be able to be a bad enough example to your teens so they won't smoke. http://www.parentingteens.com/index/Teen+Drug+Abuse/Teens+and+Smoking
  • Tell her that when she has a full time job that can pay for the habit fine. Because you do something, does not justify her doing it as you are an adult and she is still a child. And those telling you to quite because your daughter is smoking, tell them to go screw themselves.
  • first of all you point out that shes not even old enough to smoke. then you lead by example and quit yourself and help her to quit.
  • At her age, telling her the bad health effects that will happen to her when she is at your age will not make a profound impact on her. It would be more effective to show her the "cosmetic" effects, how smoking will make her look, like staining of her teeth, skin wrinkles, acne, brittle nails - you know - stuff that girls/teens are ashamed to have.
  • dont start with the whole dont take it up, cause i didnt want too, absoulute rubbish, it wont work believe me , and if she has a mccabe sort of personality like me , then the photo's wont work, best thing to do is tell her, that its alright if she smokes, let her smoke in her room etc, then eventually she'll lose intrest because its not causing controversy, dont ground her, or punish her, its DOESNT WORK, and dont try to take the fegs of her, because when your our age, u can get them everywhere, jus let everything roll out, and explain that you cant stop her, but you wish she would. from another 14 y.o smoker (male)
  • "Let's quit together."
  • With all due respect, this is the problem I have with parents who tell a child to do one thing when they don't practice it themselves (no offense) What you need to do is sit down and discuss the dangers of smoking and how you regret forming the habit yourself. Other than that, you really can't say anything and to forbid her from smoking would be hypocrisy on your part.
  • You tell her your going to quit and you would like if she would also quit with you . You very well cant say " no smoking while you puff away " i mean as a parent you can but you'll get lil to no respect and besides take it who lost a father to lung cancer smoking kills
  • hmmm... Well, one thing that deterred me at least from smoking a lot is hearing those awful noises my mom makes every morning as her body attempts to hack up the nasty shit in her lungs and go into coughing fits every time she laughs for the same reason. Try doing that for a while and make sure she knows it's because you smoke. Maybe comment on the fact that her teeth and nails are getting yellow and her skin is getting paler. Along the same lines maybe comment about your own physical affects from smoking too much. If you have crows feet, wrinkles, yellow teeth, bad breath or whatever else. But remember to do it in such a way that it's not a lecture like be smoking while she's there and then look in the mirror and go 'I'm too young for all these wrinkles' and then glare at your cigarette and put it out. Stop giving her as much money for things like movies or whatever and she might find that these things are more important to her than smoking and more worthy of the money she does get. Defiantly don't allow it in the house. This will especially deter her in the rain and cold weather. You may also have to follow this rule though, but it should be worth your daughters health. That's all I have for now.
  • Hello ya-all – My name is Lisa C. I am now 12 years old and have been smoking regularly for the past five or six years - and I would like to share my story with all of you. NO ONE SHOULD SMOKE. WEATHER YOU ARE AN ADULT, TEENAGER, CHILD, CAT OR DOG. IF YOU DO SMOKE YOU SHOULD QUIT NOW. YES I AM QUITE YOUNG RIGHT NOW AND I AM TOTALLY ASHAMED OF MY AQUIRED SMOKING HABIT. DO NOT FOLLOW IN MY FOOTSTEPS IF YOU ARE MY AGE - OR ANY AGE FOR THAT MATTER. I thought it would be beneficial for everyone to get my perspective on this smoking issue. First off a really quick history; I had my first cigarette at age of 6, believe it or not. At the time my school was located directly behind my house so each day I would walk to and from school. No more than a few hundred yards. On one particular day, when school let out it was just raining cats- and-dogs. My 3rd grade teacher, Ms Clark (not her real name) motioned me over to her car so I would at least be able to stay dry. As I was sitting in her car, I had noticed a pack of cigarettes in her purse. This was really something thrilling to me, because I did not know or believed teachers smoked. Well as stupid as I was, I ask Ms Clark if I could have one. She hesitated and gave a brief laugh and then to my utter surprise, amazement and shock, she said “sounds like a good ideal to me”. She took a cigarette and lit it and then passed the pack to me. I took one out, leaned over a got a light from Ms Clark. While I was extremely nervous, I must admit that this was something I was really enjoying. I finished my cigarette and Ms Clark was still working on hers. It stopped raining, I got down and went home. Not much developed with my smoking for about the next two years. Although I did have a cigarett now and then, but certainly not on a routine, regular basis. At the beginning of 5th grade, I think I was 8 years old then, I began to smoke quite often – a pack a day regularly. What trigger this was Ms Clark again! But certainly not her fault. My mom and I were in the bowling alley eating and Ms Clark was sitting at a table right by us. After eating my mom left briefly to go do something, make a call or something, I got up and went and sat at Ms Clark’s table. This time I did not have to ask Ms Clark for a cigarette, she offered. I accepted, and while we both were there smoking my mom had come back. She observed what was going on, and to tell you the truth she seemed unmoved by the whole episode. On one had I was surprised that she did not go through the roof, but on the other had I was pleased that she was not going to have a heart attack right there. I had really never felt the need to hide my smoking from anyone, even my mom and dad who both soon came to just accept the fact that I was a truly adolescent smoker. It is really funny, between the age of 8 and 11 I did not have too hard of a time purchasing cigarettes, but that soon ended and stores began to refuse me. This is when my mom and dad began to give me some help with purchasing my cigarettes. Smoking is a stupid thing to do and I do not advocate it to anyone, especially children as young as I. I do enjoy smoking, but this is a decision I made for myself. I am now 12 years old and I am not overly thrilled about having a smoking habit at such a young age. Be that as it may, and like I said, I do enjoy smoking. My schools (Texas schools are pretty understanding in this area) in the past, as well as my new school have really been a big help to me in providing for a safe and secure place for me to smoke while I am at school. I am not sure if I really agree with all of my schools supporting me, but I certainly was not going to turn down any of the offers and all the help that was given to me. My gosh, my current school has applied less restrictive smoking rules onto me than what they have applied to the school staff, including the teachers. To me this is ridiculous, so while I am at school, more times than not, I find myself imposing a limited smoking policy on myself. I try my best to stay on par with what the school staff and teachers have to abide by. And I think I do a pretty good job at that. I have to run for now, my youth group is meeting soon. I could write more later if anyone has any interest at all in hearing more on my perspective of adolescent smoking, Just let me know. I am not too sure if I am 8 or 9 in this 5th grade picture of me. My mom says I was smoking a pack a day when this picture was taken, but to be truthful I think smoking was still a novel thing to me and I believe I was smoking a bit more than a pack a day. Perhaps a pack and a half would be closer to the truth. Proud? ABSOLUTELY NOT!! Ashamed? YES - no doubt about it! Enjoyable? I would have to give a resounding yes to that. Stupid? You bet. Do I with I could stop smoking? Well...yes and no - I think I could stop, I am just not too sure if I really want to give it up right now. If you have questions you may contact me at Lisacruzmith@gmail.com Lisa C.
  • Hello ya-all – My name is Lisa C. I am now 12 years old and have been smoking regularly for the past five or six years - and I would like to share my story with all of you. NO ONE SHOULD SMOKE. WEATHER YOU ARE AN ADULT, TEENAGER, CHILD, CAT OR DOG. IF YOU DO SMOKE YOU SHOULD QUIT NOW. YES I AM QUITE YOUNG RIGHT NOW AND I AM TOTALLY ASHAMED OF MY AQUIRED SMOKING HABIT. DO NOT FOLLOW IN MY FOOTSTEPS IF YOU ARE MY AGE - OR ANY AGE FOR THAT MATTER. I thought it would be beneficial for everyone to get my perspective on this smoking issue. First off a really quick history; I had my first cigarette at age of 6, believe it or not. At the time my school was located directly behind my house so each day I would walk to and from school. No more than a few hundred yards. On one particular day, when school let out it was just raining cats- and-dogs. My 3rd grade teacher, Ms Clark (not her real name) motioned me over to her car so I would at least be able to stay dry. As I was sitting in her car, I had noticed a pack of cigarettes in her purse. This was really something thrilling to me, because I did not know or believed teachers smoked. Well as stupid as I was, I ask Ms Clark if I could have one. She hesitated and gave a brief laugh and then to my utter surprise, amazement and shock, she said “sounds like a good ideal to me”. She took a cigarette and lit it and then passed the pack to me. I took one out, leaned over a got a light from Ms Clark. While I was extremely nervous, I must admit that this was something I was really enjoying. I finished my cigarette and Ms Clark was still working on hers. It stopped raining, I got down and went home. Not much developed with my smoking for about the next two years. Although I did have a cigarett now and then, but certainly not on a routine, regular basis. At the beginning of 5th grade, I think I was 8 years old then, I began to smoke quite often – a pack a day regularly. What trigger this was Ms Clark again! But certainly not her fault. My mom and I were in the bowling alley eating and Ms Clark was sitting at a table right by us. After eating my mom left briefly to go do something, make a call or something, I got up and went and sat at Ms Clark’s table. This time I did not have to ask Ms Clark for a cigarette, she offered. I accepted, and while we both were there smoking my mom had come back. She observed what was going on, and to tell you the truth she seemed unmoved by the whole episode. On one had I was surprised that she did not go through the roof, but on the other had I was pleased that she was not going to have a heart attack right there. I had really never felt the need to hide my smoking from anyone, even my mom and dad who both soon came to just accept the fact that I was a truly adolescent smoker. It is really funny, between the age of 8 and 11 I did not have too hard of a time purchasing cigarettes, but that soon ended and stores began to refuse me. This is when my mom and dad began to give me some help with purchasing my cigarettes. Smoking is a stupid thing to do and I do not advocate it to anyone, especially children as young as I. I do enjoy smoking, but this is a decision I made for myself. I am now 12 years old and I am not overly thrilled about having a smoking habit at such a young age. Be that as it may, and like I said, I do enjoy smoking. My schools (Texas schools are pretty understanding in this area) in the past, as well as my new school have really been a big help to me in providing for a safe and secure place for me to smoke while I am at school. I am not sure if I really agree with all of my schools supporting me, but I certainly was not going to turn down any of the offers and all the help that was given to me. My gosh, my current school has applied less restrictive smoking rules onto me than what they have applied to the school staff, including the teachers. To me this is ridiculous, so while I am at school, more times than not, I find myself imposing a limited smoking policy on myself. I try my best to stay on par with what the school staff and teachers have to abide by. And I think I do a pretty good job at that. I have to run for now, my youth group is meeting soon. I could write more later if anyone has any interest at all in hearing more on my perspective of adolescent smoking, Just let me know. I am not too sure if I am 8 or 9 in this 5th grade picture of me. My mom says I was smoking a pack a day when this picture was taken, but to be truthful I think smoking was still a novel thing to me and I believe I was smoking a bit more than a pack a day. Perhaps a pack and a half would be closer to the truth. Proud? ABSOLUTELY NOT!! Ashamed? YES - no doubt about it! Enjoyable? I would have to give a resounding yes to that. Stupid? You bet. Do I with I could stop smoking? Well...yes and no - I think I could stop, I am just not too sure if I really want to give it up right now. If you have questions you may contact me at Lisacruzmith@gmail.com Lisa C.

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