ANSWERS: 39
  • Probably likes things fine the way they are. Getting the proverbial milk for free and all;)
  • Scared of allowing things to change. If a boy proposes and the girl says no, its typically the end of the relationship, so risking 4 years is a huge thing.
  • I have no idea
  • If you and he are living together, it's like being married without the commitment. Maybe you should have not agreed to live with him and he might have proposed by now.
  • The only thing I can say is talk to him, tell him you want to take your relationship further. If he wants to live with you without making the commitment, maybe you need to rethink your relationship or tell him he needs to choose wheather or not to keep you in his life.
  • When a woman moves in with a man and shares his bed with him, she becomes his wife. Oh, in the legal sense it might take 3 years or so, but in the mental and spiritual sense, the two become one- married. Also,there is an old saying and I am not meaning to degrade you in any way, but why buy a cow if you can get milk for free? Why get married if he gets companionship, help around the house and sex with no commitment?
  • Maybe he doesn't want to get married, or get married to you.
  • 70% of all marriages end in divorce if the couple lived together first. It's only 50% for those who did not live together. 66% divorce for second marriages. Any way you look at it you have to be willing to beat the odds. Read the Five Love Languages it should help you communicate.
  • I don't understand, what's stopping you from popping the question?
  • Maybe he's waiting for you to propose.
  • He has no incentive. What extra does he get for marrying you that he doesn't have now?
  • Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?
  • 4 years does not always make marriage an ideal concept for those involved ... Some may take 10 or 20 years before they are ready to take that step given todays lifestyle loads and personal feelings and or commitments ... What does it matter if he asks today or tomorrow, so long as you are sure he loves you, and you he? ... If you are secure with these feelings between each other now, then you should know him enough to understand that he will ask when he feels you are both ready and time permits ... Goodluck! Peace.
  • Because you are living with him and didn't make it clear that you were only interested in a committed marital relationship. He's getting all the benefits an denying you the benefits and security that you may want from this relationship. The trick is to first find someone that is interested in marriage from the very beginning, not expect them to think that way after awhile.
  • I was with a certain girl for about five years in a long-distance relationship (I was in the Navy) and lived with her for almost three years after I got out and never really thought about marriage. It wasn't that we didn't love each other or anything, but the thought of marriage never really crossed my mind. I mean, we were together and still in love so it didn't really matter to me whether or not there was a ring and a piece of paper involved that gave us a tax break. My wife and I celebrated our eighth anniversary a couple of months ago, but the fact that we are married never changed my feelings for her, nor her's towards me. Maybe he just sees the ring and marriage license as a formality... and an expense. Weddings cost more than many used cars Hell, I have an aunt and uncle that have been together for over 20 years without a wedding, so don't take his lack of a proposal as a sign that he doesn't love you!
  • Ask him. Maybe propose to him . . .
  • Why haven't you?
  • What are you wearing?
  • why should he? seriously. what does he get out of marrying you... for that matter what do you get out of marrying him?
  • Marriage is a piece of paper....I think it's better if you don't. You already live together and prolly act like your married anyhow.
  • why would he..he has everything and no responsibilities....
  • What would motivate him to marry if he has everything he wants without having to change anything? If you want to marry, tell him so. And if he doesn't ask; why don't you ask him?
  • See the movie, "He's Just Not That Into You."
  • maybe.... he's still didnt realize that both of u need to settle down.. and especially both of you are living together... he already experience living with you.. like married pipol do.. so he dnt worry that much anymore coz u are always with him,.. guys usually propose marriage proposal when they feel that the girl or the one they love is going to leave them...guys are afraid to be left alone.. especially when they know you're they evr wanted or to be with
  • Have you ever discussed marriage with him, even indirectly? Ex: Where do you see us in five yrs? Do you ever plan on getting married? If you got married, where would you like to honeymoon? You will find out why he hasn't proposed, instead of guessing and ABing.
  • Because he doesn't want to marry you. He just likes your cooking.
  • There's a very old saying about that: Why buy the cow when you can have the milk for free?
  • My guess cause he's chicken and afraid of taking the plunge... currently dealing with something along the same lines it sucks GRRR
  • Have you told him you want to be married soon? If not, have a conversation about where he sees himself in the future. When it's your turn to speak, say you'd like to be married in X number of months/years. Maybe he's insecure and waiting for you to express interest. Guys generally don't like to propose unless they're certain about being accepted. P.S. I don't buy the line about the milk and cow. If a guy does not want to marry you, manipulating the situation by saving yourself for marriage or not living together will not suddenly give him a burning desire to tie the knot. A marriage-minded guy is a marriage-minded guy, regardless of circumstances.
  • I bought a house with him 2 years ago and to answer my own question that is a commitment for itself.
  • because he is getting 2 much from you. as a guy it's hard to propose to someone if you already feel like your married to that person already, it dont mean he dont love to you. but in his mind he feels commited already you have to show him you want to kick it another level.
  • your mama was right when she said: "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free??" we've all heard her say it, its usually true. maybe you should move out, show him what he would be missing? some guys just need a hint too, his mind might be so far from marriage that he isnt even "not propossing" he just dating you right now. hope that helped. who can really understand how guys work tho? hehe. =)
  • Love always finds a way to marriage. If he loves you he'll ask you to marry him sooner or later. When waiting for good things, you need to be patient.
  • Because you're putting out and haven't made him commit to anything.
  • Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free.
  • Fact from fiction, truth from diction. Why pay for the gas when the tank is always full. You have been together 4 years total. I don't know if you have indicated there is an expiration date on the romance and all that or said nothing. People are like Congress, unless you place deadlines on something, nothing gets done. Imagine a newspaper rack with the daily paper in it that you don't have to put money into next to a rack where you have to plop your 75 cents in to get one. What rack you think will empty 1st? And which rack doyou think people will stop by 1st? The one with the FREE paper. Why would he get around to stepping up if he feels he has it all and won't lose it?
  • i wish you all of the best, but you keep bringing up the fact that you bought a house with him, you should have thought about marriage before the house. marriage is much more of a commitment than buying a house, so in his mind your already acting like a wife. why should he make it legal and commit more?it goes back to what everyone else is saying, why buy the cow when the milk is free... talk to him and tell him how important marriage is to you, if he doesn't see it your way, your wasting your time with him...
  • Change, people don't like change. It takes them out of their comfort zone, but sometimes, if you really want something, then you not only have to speak your mind, but also act upon it. Assure him that things will only get better from there and that the both of you will feel more connected. Make sure to communicate effectivly with him and let him know that you're ready for a change and hoping that he is too. If you involve him and make him feel important, then he should begin to understand how you're feeling. Also, the number one reason a man does not want to get married is because they are not financially secure, they want to know they can support you and your kids.
  • Why should he?You already live together.

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