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  • I don't think you are missing out. I'm not nor will I ever be married. I do have a son that will be 9 in July. The only thing that I can tell you is that I never understood that you could have such a bond and love someone so much as you would your own child.
  • no matter what you choose, you will be missing out on something...so it's your choice. if you have children, just don't have them for selfish reasons. if you don't have children, your life doesn't have to be void of children. i don't have children of my own but i've been available to be a fanstastic aunt to 4 and great aunt to 9...i've been a foster parent and ran homes/programs for homeless and runaway teens...most of which i would have not been available to do if i had kids of my own. and i wouldn't have been able to travel as much as i have if i had had kids of my own.
  • I don't know... I don't want to get married or have kids, and I prefer to think of what I'll gain from those personal choices, rather than what I'd lose/miss. But it's your choice whether or not to dwell on what you'd miss out on; it's honestly something you need to give serious thought to.
  • Not if you hate men... or children.
  • No. If you don't get that experience, you'll have more time for experiences that family men/women don't often get---such as a chance to travel and try out new activities. Your free time is completely yours.
  • Yes you are missing out and here's why ... If you don't get married, you can't go through divorce court ... that's always fun ... lol If you don't have children you are missing out on the labor pains and the joy of creating a monster that will keep you up all night long until they put you in the grave ... lol but they are worth every second of it.
  • You can find other people who do not want children at http://www.childfreebychoice.com/
  • No, not if you don't want that in the first place. Marriage and having kids is not for everyone, and if you don't desire that at all, there is nothing to "miss".
  • It depends on the lifestyle you live. If you want a family - then you ARE missing out on something. You would be missing out on your desire to have what you feel will make and keep you happy. If you are not family oriented - then no. You have other fulfilling things happening in your life. Marriage should be looked at as a life long passion - not just something to do in fear you may miss something.
  • Not if that is not what you want out of life.
  • You'll never know.
  • Nope. Find it in you. Then find it elsewhere. It has to begin with you first.
  • 35 yrs old, only married once for 3 years when I was 20, no kids..but I don't miss a thing. I have time to enjoy relationships with friends and my gf, hobbies, travel, more expendable income, more free time, less obligation...honestly I don't know why anyone would want to have kids, and marriage doesn't offer anything I don't already have in my relationship. So what is there to miss out on?
  • Some people would think so, but if you are an aunt (or uncle), your siblings have kids you can babysit, and spoil. I have a step-granddaughter (my wife's child's daughter). Her aunt (currently unmarried) and uncle (married, but childless) spoil that kid like crazy. Her grandfather and grandmother (and step-grandfather, and I assume, step-grandmother) love her like crazy. We get her next weekend. But, in the end, she ends up going home with Mommy, and we get to relax (and my wife, sleep!) The other way to look at it, though, is that you never get to see a kid grow up completely. Once-a-week or once-a-month doesn't do it. Things change with kids so quickly. (I have two boys, now mid-20s. My wife has three, mid-20s.) Again, unless you are a part of their lives, your nieces and nephews grow in spurts for you... One day, they're breast-feeding. The next time they're crawling, then walking, then talking, then... You don't get to see the progression. As for marriage... Well, you miss out on being a partner in life with someone, unless you're living with someone and NOT getting married (a la Farrah and Ryan). All in all, it's up to you. It's good that you're asking what you might be missing, though. Means, to me, you are at least wondering, and thinking about things. ;-)

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