ANSWERS: 28
  • I think it should be whatever works for that particular couple. But...personally I don't believe a particular "job" in the relationship should be delegated to only men or only women. It should be 50/50 ... both partners sharing equally.
  • They should work the identical number of hours and do the exact same house chores in rotation, alternating taking out the trash, cutting the grass, doing home repairs, cooking, cleaning, killing spiders and mice, and checking out night noises while the other hides under the covers.
  • Ummm That sounds 70% the woman's responsibility and only 30% his. I think he needs to look after the kids more and do some cleaning.
  • I think that every couple is different. For some couples the wife is the main provider and the husbands stays at home with the kids. For others, they both work and they hire a nanny. Every family is different and i dont think there is a right or wrong way to do it as long as everyone is happy with the choices made.
  • You do whatever you like sweet pea. If he doesn't like it then he's got an issue.
  • In this day and age, it should be whatever the partners agree to do. Some men make enough to live comfortably while the wife is a stay at home mom. Some women make enough to do the same. Either way, they should be able to agree on whatever approach they want to do, or not be together.
  • some women like the traditional role and it should be up to them, as long as its what works for the household, some people have to do what they have to do even if it means both people working, and if there are no children yet you should both be working 'cause once theres a kid its hard to save up money, go to school or go to work
  • In my opinion it should be 50/50 that way if there are children involved they become equally close to both parents and there is more money going into the household which in this time of economic crisis wouldn't hurt...
  • I think if one parent stays home and the other goes to work, it is 50/50. I don't think being a stay at home parent is as easy as some think it is. If both parents choose to work and both pitch in around the house, that is fair too. It all depends on how the family decides to make it work!
  • They should be equal and share the work. +4
  • I was always raised to believe that the woman's place was at home. However, I have some old school values and some modern values too. I plan to work untill I have children, then I want to be a stay at home mom. I don't think this is for all woman though. I say to each their own. If you want it to be 50/50 and you and your spouse agree... go for it... but it has to be something the both of you want for the relationship or it will suck
  • I think it depends on the couple and how they want the dynamics of their marriage to work. Personally for myself, since my husband and I both work, we split the housework as well. I found for us that it reinforces the fact we are a partnership in the marriage without one having control over the other.
  • My attitude is that a relationship should work in whatever way is best for the individuals within the relationship! Whatever the couple finds makes them happiest, that's what they should do. I'm not going to dictate my own values or ambitions onto another couple.
  • I think it should be 50/50, but that it should be divvied up according to the needs of the couple. I do believe that parenting should always be 50/50 though. A parents relationship with their children has nothing to do with the relationship they have with their spouse.
  • relationships should be as close to 50/50 as possible, but sometimes that just cant happen. sometimes one has to pull more weight and give a little more than the other. that doesnt always mean its the man. im a woman, and in my relationship im the one who brings home the most bacon. i make nearly 2 times more than my bf. i would be perfectly fine if he had to quit or got fired and just went to school full time. i could support us both. i wouldnt love that idea, but i would be okay with it. it doesnt matter to me, or to him. and i think its stupid that the men of the world think the only thing women are good at is cleaning the house and taking care of the kids. men can do that too.
  • I think the woman should definitely be allowed to work, and THEN come home to take care of the children, house and cleaning.
  • It should be 50-50. Unless the man makes a lot of money and the women can afford to stay home if she wants to.
  • If they both work, then they both got to do 50/50. If one works, the other does the home stuff with some help from the one working. I mean, if one is working and the other is at home, it's 40-50 hours a week working for one and 40-50 hours per week at home for the other. When their home together, then it's joint time with the family. Staying at home and maintaining a house, cooking, cleaning, shopping, etc. is AT least a 40 hour per week job, so if ones working a job to pay the bills and the other stays at home, they're pretty even already. I'm single and I pay a housekeeper $300 a week for everything to be done for me so I can focus on work, plus I pay $100 for pool and $70 for yard, but I still do some cooking and cleaning of my own. So, the way I see it, if I did get married, and she enjoyed staying at home and keeping it nice, then I would have time to do my own yard and pool and that EARNS us back the $1,500 a month I end up spending now. So there IS value and income associated with keeping a home, I don't think people consider that enough :-)
  • YES! Either way it is still 50/50, whether the woman chooses to work inside or outside the home, you work as a team.
  • whoever decides to stay home and "take care of" family, i think is doing the right thing, after all, why get married if you are both living seperate agendas?
  • Dr Phil says a relationship shouldn't be 50/50. It should be 100/100. ;)
  • Yes it should be 50/50, neither the male or the female should be doing more, or not intentionally at least. Both are as capable as the other so there is no need for the work load to be unbalanced.
  • Alas, gone are the good old days. The days when women stayed home and raised the kids. Gone are the days when women greeted their husbands when they came through the door at the end of a days work. Gone are the days when women would put on a dress to greet her husband and and nice meal was waiting on the table. Gone are the days when a couple could live on a single income! Gone, gone, gone! Now, both work, both are busy taking care of the house and sex in penciled into their respective weekly planners. YUCK!
  • Even if the woman stays home and looks after the children and the house, it is still 50/50. The woman's work in the home should be treated as full-time work by the husband. Unfortunately, it goes unrewarded.
  • It should be whatever the two people want. What I or others think is totally irrelevant.
  • Or?... A man working, and a wife staying at home taking care of house business...is working togather 50/50. They are equal YET have different parts. Me myself, in my situation... My husband loves to go out and work, he provides...and it satisfys him. Myself I used to work, but now I am at home...kickin it with the kiddos, and my mom...n gramma. I love doing it, I love cooking for him...after a long days work, I love having his house clean for him to chill relax...n drink a beer, I like having a nice clean towel ready for a cold shower... and he makes all the money so I can pay the bills, we can go out and eat...go to the movies... Plus my kids are in my own care...and learn all they know, from me. Its how our relationship works... We have a wonderful relationship...awesome. Awesome sex life, awesome intimate life...we share everything, he is my best friend. And the kids are completely happy...Art man is with the fam all the time, Jaycee is growing up so fast...and I get to watch every single step taken. Its great.
  • I relationship should not be 50/50 it should be 100/100 both give all they can into it! The factors of the relationship depend on what works for both of them. If your asking if a woman should be the home maker because that is her "job" in life. NO If she can afford to be one and wants to be one and the husband/bh agrees then fine. I have made the most money in my marriage and worked longer hours and I am a woman. Its what we found to work best for us. A good relationship are 2 people equalling out accepting each others weaknesses and faults the best you can. Which ever is best at money should handle money matters the most ext....
  • well if you ask me, the man working and the wife with the kids IS 50/50. it wouldnt hurt for the dad to help, but the work between the two would be even as it is.

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