ANSWERS: 47
  • If I was actually considering such a thing that issue would be irrelevent.
  • No big deal. I'd even offer to combine our names into a double surname and both adopt each other's name.
  • No, it shows a lack of commitment. But, if she didn't expect me to wear a wedding ring I would consider it an even trade. This way I wouldn't have to let anyone know I'm married.
  • ya i can care less
  • No, but I wouldn't marry a woman in the first place.
  • do u marry someone to get his last name or you marry someone because you love that person
  • I don't see why any woman would have to take my last name. She's not my offspring or my property.
  • Sure, it's just a name, although my ex wife I believe still uses my last name which pisses me off.
  • Its just a name. No big deal.
  • From a practical standpoint, I would have no problem with a woman who refuses to take my last name. Her doing so would probably save me hours from doing a lot of paper work involving name changing.
  • no i'll not marry her. i'll marry the girl who will accept me as i am
  • I am female but I'd like to offer an opinion. I think that when women marry they should take the last name of the male. It is a kind and unifying action that creates a good feeling. Either way I think one last name should be used for both parties. When I was in Malaysia a female professor got angry at me when I called her by the last name of her husband. She rebuked me saying that women don't take the names of their husbands there. I found it so odd and a bit sad.
  • I don't care either way. We're never having kids anyway.
  • yes its her choice, i would perfer it if she took my last name although i wouldnt really mind.
  • Yes if i want to marry her i wouldn't care about the name.
  • I would be a little upset, but if it sounded stupid or was really akward to pronounce then ye i supose it wud be alright.
  • No, that would tip me off that she's a roughneck, not a team player, not family oriented, and hard to deal with. I'll save myself the misery and find a sweet lady to marry.
  • I can't stand all that Hillary Rodham Clinton bullcrap going around now... All these women with 13 names... It's just pretensious and annoying!
  • Uh, no.
  • Sure. if she wanted me to i'd take her last name. Yeah, that is unconventional but I don't really care.
  • Depends on what reason and if we were in agreement.
  • My wife took my last name and said she went through all the different ways to write her new name at work on a notepad. I like to think she had a dreamy look in her eyes.
  • Yes, in fact I tried to take my wife's last name but because we sort of eloped in Reno and didn't have the necessary paperwork we ended up having to do things the "old fashioned" way.
  • i have no problem in it , if she loves me truly , its all about understanding each other well :)
  • If she doesn't want to take your last name what do you get? I see it as a trade off, if she wants to retain her last name, a lot of women do in professional jobs, then what is she going give you in return? If you can't compromise on things then you shouldn't be married in the first place.
  • I would want her to want me, not my name. So, YES.
  • if my last name was pinkleschwarts or dickeydoo yeah, I'd want to take her last name. but if her only reason to break the tredition was for the sake of femenazism then no... I have no interest in a woman who must be in control. it is a red flag... red flags can be misplaced but usualy indicate some kind of problem.
  • No, because marriage joins 2 as 1. The point of marriage was that "the twain shall become one flesh. Wherefore, they are no more twain, but one flesh." The making of one name then, rather than two surnames should become mere formality. To me, the commitment to become one has not been genuinely met until the name has become one as well.
  • No. Sharing a name is part of being a family and connects the kids to their grandparents and cousins, etc. If she and I aren't going to have the same name, maybe we should give the kids their own last names too.
  • I am very numb in reading the answers from many people here who feel they would not marry a woman who wouldn't take their last name....very odd indeed....you don't need to be branded with someone else's name for a marriage to a be good and trusting relationship.....My son wanted his wife to keep her name because that is her identity...he didn't need to have her change her name to know and trust in her love....I raised a strong mature man...one who knows there is so much more to marriage then tagging a mate with his name...
  • uhm, i can see how it might cause a problem between me and her. If her reason for keeping her last name is because she got it from her last husband for example, then i would have a really hard time with it. But over all, in the end, if our love is honest and true, and if we can get past the name issue, i have no doubt in my mind that i'd marry the woman of my dreams, and if she didn't end up taking my name, then i'd take hers. My last name is Flower by the way. :D
  • If I loved her yes. Although I'd like to know her reasoning also
  • No, it's a practical, make-sense tradition. Everybody in the house have the same name. What other traditions does she wan to change? She wears the tux and I wear the white gown? Nah, I'll only marry a sweetie that's into family.
  • Based only on that? ABSOLUTELY!
  • Inconceivable!
  • For me, it has nothing to do with the usual answers:love, tradition, women's rights, etc.: I grew up with a last name that is different and I've always been so proud of it. I want to keep it always. He can add his name to mine, or take my name, but I've never found a name I like more than mine.
  • I sure would. When we got married, I told my wife that she didn't have to take my last name if she didn't want to.
  • Sure, I have no problem with that.
  • If you loved her enough to want to marry her then chances are you would be happy with it as it is there decision. Though going the other way i can see why some people would prefer women to take their last name as they would want to feel that the women in now truly part of them.
  • What's in a name or piece of paper. Females are welcome to stay for as long as they wish and if they chose to leave I will thank them for the memory. One rule I fought in the war I will not fight in my house and if you chose to then please leave.
  • I would wager that couples with different last names are more likely to get divorced that those with the same last names. However, if she was widely published under her maiden name, she could use her maiden name as her middle name and for a period of time until she was also known for her married name. So, she would legally be Dr. Megan Jones (her name) Smith (my name). Over time, she could drop the common use of Jones once people got used to hearing Smith.
  • Whats in a name? If two people truly love each other, i would take her last name. Matter of fact, i know some men that have changed their last name to their wifes last name, in order to qualify for credit cards. Its illegal and you will be arrested. Forget i said that.
  • To those who answer "no" I'm wondering why your name is so special. This is not a biblical or cultural given; it is like our typical laws: archaic and could be somewhat demeaning.
  • for all you guys that said no, and labeled her as terrible things, I have to ask...why? Im seeing alot of the men who said no, are the samwe one swho said they dont believe men should have to be faithful. there are a lot of you who said men shouldnt have to share their bank accts. I just find it a bit hypocritical on the part of those who dont believe in monogamy or sharing finances, to say that SHE isnt family oriented for not accepting your name.
  • My brother did.
  • Yes. I even told my wife I didn't care what she did with her name. She took mine anyway, but whether or not she wanted to change her name was 100% up to her. How can I expect someone to do something that I am unwilling to do?

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