ANSWERS: 36
  • Let it be known that you are always there to help if needed but you will never interfere unasked.
  • First of all, congratulation !!! =) second of all, be your wonderful self.. and let them do whatever they want !! Its normal to worry about them and wish to give some advices, but trust me, they would come to you when they need help !
  • Congratulations!!!!!! I'm not a mother in law YET, but one of the first things my mother in law did that drove me looney was stopping by unannounced and staying for hours. I would avoid doing that. Sorry, that is all the advice I have.
  • Is there such a thing?
  • Congratulations on the marriage of your child! Never badger the spouse-in-law. The more helpful and positive you are, the more you will be a welcome and enjoyable member of your new family. Knowing how sweet and attentive you are, I am sure you need no tips on being good at it :)
  • i think the govt. must kidnap and kill the good mothers in law, because i have never heard of any!
  • Congrats Mrs. C! I hope the beav's wedding was a nice one. Be nice and sincere to the new in-law. Give the new couple plenty of space. People who act with sincereity can never go wrong.
  • Stay away!
  • Give them space!!!!!
  • "Give your opinion ONLY when specifically asked for." "Show honest appreciation where it is truly deserved." "Cut the apron strings completely." Enjoy !
  • 1. Never feel like you lost a child but gained one instead. 2. Show an equal amount of respect to the new addition of the family. 3. Make them feel like they have always been part of the family. 4. Allow the couple to work things out (do not take sides). 5. Always let the couple know your door is always open to listen. 6. Treat them as if you would any other adult when it comes time to visit. 7. If you display photos - make sure you include photos of the couple as a couple.
  • Wait to be asked.
  • Move out of state. Worked for us!
  • I am now divorced, but I had a nice relationship with my mother in law. She accepted my as part of her family, she respected our diffences and loved me as the mother of her grandchild. She was always gracious and wanted the best for me and her son. I loved her.
  • Yes. All new mother-in-laws please tell your daughters that their new husbands will not enjoy buying feminen products for their new wives.
  • Your faux pas No.1: You're not a new mother-in-law; but a new mother once again. Accept your son/daughter-in law on par with your own children. They'll respect you for it, despite the occasional disagreements, which usually are quite trivial and inconsequential. The disagreements/disputes are but teething problems of the new relationship that you have formed. Live through them. And be fair to everyone.
  • Watch everything my Mother In Law does........Now do the exact OPPOSITE!
  • Do NOT meddle!
  • I agree with everyone else for the most part, but I think it's best to treat them more like you would your best friend. You fuss at your children, every parent does, but people tend to work harder on getting along with best firends. I'd say show them your love and respect, but the fact that you're on here even asking what you should do tells me you're probably already well on your way to being a great one. Just remember all the things your own did that annoyed you and try not to follow her example.
  • I'll tell you what NOT to do.... My cousin can't stand her mother-in-law and for good reason. She goes snooping around my cousin's bedroom! One time she came to find out that the mother-in-law took the bed skirt off to wash it! That's Crazy! Another time, she apologized for breaking a small Blessed Mother statue but my cousin knew that she had previously mentioned how they needed to get that out of the house because she didn't believe in that. My advice to you is just pretty basic- just treat them as you would like to have been treated! :)
  • I do not think that you have any problems, you seem too nice for her not to love you. Me and my mother in law had always gotten along great until I had my first child and that is when it began. Just always respect her as a woman, don't every try to take away the things in her life that are her first, just because you may mean well by giving advice and helping, when the time comes and she has a child, remember she is the mother, and don't expect to parent her child and be able to care for her child more than she would. Also don't say things like your son likes this or that, I am sure she knows your son pretty well, and what she doesn't know yet, she will learn. Respect is the number one tip and I am sure you won't have a problem with that.
  • You have always been very kind and helpful. I can't imagine you having any problems. Just accept her for who she is and respect her. I wish I had this from my mother-in-law, however I believe you will have a much better relationship because you know what it's like to be in her position.
  • yes, just be yourself...... never never take sides it will always be you in there busines........ and the blame comes always your way!!!!
  • Just be yourself, and keep things positive. I think the only complaints that people have with their mother in laws is that they are always griping and are not accepting of their son or daughters new life with their new spouse.
  • Mrs. C, I have complete confidence that you'll stay out of your kid's and their new spouse's life but be there when needed
  • Mother-in-law of a girl or a boy? If you've got a son-in-law, it should be a piece of cake. If, however, you have a daughter-in-law, you are going to have to walk on eggshells, around landmines and jump chasms and ford rivers that will crop up. Keep out of their lives totally unless invited in. Alway remember that your child chose this person..you are not in the marriage, the two of them are. Let them seek you out..don't wear out your welcome. Even if you don't approve of everything about their lives, if it works for them that is all that counts! :) ((hugs))
  • My only tip is this: It will be difficult to remain neutral and uninvolved in that marriage, and it will be easy to become a nuisance and overly-involved with that marriage. Good luck!
  • be yourself if you like them great if not all you can do is try to do the best you can try not to inter fear be there when asked advice dont try and take over try and be a friend not a mother
  • Treat her like your own daughter. Respect her decisions, even if you dislike them. Do not offer your opinion unless you are asked for it. Pick you battles if something really bothered you. Don't badmouth her to your son, chances are he will let her know. I hope these tips are helpful. Good luck.
  • If you have good manners,there is nothing to worry about :)
  • Stay out of their marital challenges. Don't take the side of your child and help the couple work things out together. Encourage your child not to run home to Mom when the going gets a bit tough. Respect their relationship.
  • Don't visit everyday, don't call everyday, unless someone is sick and needs attention. Don't give to much advice. Give the couple room so solve their own things as they come up, but do be helpful if they come looking for assistance or advice.
  • I think you already know as you have hopefully grown to love your new daughter-in-law already. Continue your relationship by being understanding, avoid taking sides, offer advice if asked but don't be offended if it is not heeded. Be there for both of them and try to act impartial at the same time! My mother had a lovely relationship with my granny, they were not best friends (in that sense) but they loved and respected eachother, enjoyed eachothers company and when I was born became even closer. My granny left her son and daughter-in-law to their own devices. My parents had a beautiful relationship anyway, but they knew that the door was always open for them whenever they wanted advice or confirmation that they had done the right thing.
  • Do not smother the new couple, and accept that your son/daughter has a separate life that won't always include you. You had the chance to be young, live your life, and make your own decisions, so allow them to have the same opportunity.
  • Be careful when you give advise. BUT CONGRATSULATIONS !!!
  • watch everybody loves raymond. learn what NOT to do from marie. lol.

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